How did you choose your bridesmaids?

I would choose the person ive been close with recently. if youve drifted from one i would cut that one person. people grow apart especially childhood friends so pick the one you currently talk to most

Asking the ones you do feel that close to be up with you at the altar is the most important to you. They will be helping you throughout the planning decisions when needed. There isn't anything wrong with having others you want to get ready with and just opinions if your unsure about details to confirm. Just be sure to set guidelines in the beginning before any fallouts happen.

We had 4 on my side and 3 on DH's - you can have unbalanced numbers of bridesmaids/groomsmen! Our photographer posed everyone in big group shots so it didn't look awkward when one bridesmaid didn't have a groomsman to pose with. We also had our flower girl in some of the wedding party photos, who is one of the bridesmaid's daughter so it work out!

Having an odd number is fine too.
It’s your wedding and you should have the people you care about with you.

My wedding isn’t too traditional, I have 4 bridesmaids (2 sisters and 2 friends), but no Maid of honour. My fiancé has his brother as best man and his sister as a grooms-maid. This way we have all the siblings involved in the party as family is important to us both.

I would just tell your FH he has to add another guy on his side. It's easier to add then to take away! Of course you could always just have odd numbers though right?

I for sure wouldn't pick between my girls and would never ask my Husband to do that either. Heck, he ended up having 2 best men and 3 groomsmen (I had 1 maid of honour and 4 bridesmaids).

We skipped the bridal party and will each chose a person to witness our legal paper work. Those people will be like a bestman and maid of honor without the title.


My girlfriends have all been really supportive of this. We all have "wedding ptsd" from being in a previous wedding that ended in a friendship meltdown. They were all ready and willing to be there for me, but our wedding is small and it seemed silly to have 20% of the guests in the wedding party. I've asked a few to have jobs like emceeing or helping to decorate. They were all present to help me shop for a dress. And they'll all be there bachelorette party fun!
As far as a deciding factor, who do you picture there with you. When you day dream about your wedding which one is there. Who do you want to call first to gush about bridal stuff. That might answer for you.

I’ve seen plenty of wedding where there are odd numbers .. choose both and have his groomsman lucky enough to have a lady on each arm! It’s your wedding follow your own rules 😊👍🏻

I have 2 girls on my side and my FH has 3. That’s just how it worked out for us with who was important to us. I personally don’t think symmetry in a wedding party is that important. I don’t think you should feel pressured to include or leave out anyone just for symmetry.

FH and I went with no wedding party to spare the drama, otherwise we would've had to have 5 on each side and that's 15% of our guest list, so we thought it was ridiculous. One route you could go is to not even worry about symmetry and just have the 2 on your side and 1 on his side, which I've seen become more common

I didn’t want any bridal party drama so my FH and I just went with our siblings. My sister on my side and his brother on his. My FH also has a sister but I’m not close to her, however, we have opted to include other people we aren’t as close to in our day.


My FSIL will be blessing the meal, and we have cousins involved in our ceremony readings.
I think whoever you don’t choose, you can include them in a variety of ways and still have them get ready with you the morning of.