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Maya
Expert January 2019 Alberta

How can we include my fh sister?

Maya, on April 1, 2018 at 21:41 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 11
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So we have been planning our wedding for a while. At Easter dinner my FH’s Family was asking about the wedding and what not. Then his sister asked if she is being a bridesmaid or if she’s standing up for her brother. I was caught off guard and didn’t say anything. She automatically assumed she was going to be included in the wedding party.

I myself have 5 brothers and 3 sisters and none of them will be in the wedding party. The one brother I grew up with is going to walk me down the isle with my mom and my dad. I was thinking she could walk with my FH and his parents down the isle. I’m looking for other suggestions of how to include her and also to let her down gently that she’s not in the bridal party.

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Latest activity by Bianca, on April 2, 2018 at 21:25
  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    Asking her to do a reading or other role (watch the card box, stand in the receiving line) might be a special way to include her.
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  • Maya
    Expert January 2019 Alberta
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    Yeah, I’ve been thinking about the MC role. I’m not sure she enjoys public speaking so I’ll let my FH and her discuss that and she can decide.
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  • Jessica
    Super March 2018 Ontario
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    You can ask her to do a reading at the wedding, maybe MC if she enjoys public speaking. I like getting her to walk down the aisle with your FH too.

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  • Maya
    Expert January 2019 Alberta
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    We already have lots of people standing up for us and I do not want any of my other siblings to feel left out by not being in the wedding party.
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  • Joey
    WeddingWire Admin May 2015 Maryland
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    She could stand up with her brother on his side, or she could do a reading in your ceremony. There are lots of non-religious readings out there to choose from since you said you're not very religious.

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  • Courtney
    Super July 2018 Ontario
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    Awkward situation.

    I didn't include my FSIL which cause a lot of problems, but we aren't close and I already knew who I wanted as my bridal party.

    The idea came up for her to stand up as a 'Groomswoman' but my FH didn't want that either.


    We decided to ask her to do a reading during our ceremony. We aren't religious AT ALL, so the reading will be a short poem or something else about love. I'm also going to give her a corsage that is in the wedding colours to sort of make her feel more involved (even though she really isn't)

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  • Maya
    Expert January 2019 Alberta
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    We are not very religious and there will be a part where we let family make speeches. Before the dinner though my FH and I will be saying why the day is special. We are having our wedding on what would have been our daughters first birthday. I had a miscarriage last July and so the wedding has special meaning for us.
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  • Jen
    VIP June 2018 Ontario
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    I included my FHs sister in my side of the party but I did it because we have a close relationship. You could ask her to do a reading or even a speech if you don't want to include her in the actual party.

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  • Maya
    Expert January 2019 Alberta
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    We have thought about asking her to be the mc. I’m not overly close with her and I mean I don’t know how it would be fair to include her and not my other siblings. I have a lot of siblings that are about 20 years older than me and then the one brother I grew up with because we share a mom is 3 years older. I also have 3 younger siblings too and the youngest is 10 years younger just like my FH’s sister. She just sounded so excited asking about which side she was going to be on. I’m going to let my FH explain to her about it.
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  • Alessia
    Frequent user June 2020 Ontario
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    I’m getting married in a church so I’m including any family I’ve left out in a reading or to bring down the gifts. Why don’t you have her say a prayer/poem before you guys eat at dinner?
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  • Becky
    VIP September 2019 Ontario
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    I would explain how your own family isn’t in the wedding party, also are you both close? You could suggest what you had said someone who escorts family members down the isle, or she can still help with a bridal shower you. Be an mc at reception
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