Helpful advice for a two-bride wedding (lgbt wedding)

Congratulations to you both Jacci.

While you are searching for that perfect venue, have you two made up a budget and approximately how many guest you would like. From there it will be easier to pin down your venue. Some venues have smaller capacities as to other that are larger.

I agree with the others, just be upfront with anyone you deal with and things should work out fine.

Congrats and welcome to wedding wire! I can honestly say that I don't recall using any items that said Mr. &Mrs. or Bride & Groom (although I'm sure there's LOTS out there!). As others have suggested, just make sure that you are comfortable with the vendors before you book them, and makes sure you have the wedding you and your spouse to be envision!

Congrats on the engagement!! Plan away!! It will come sooner than you realize!! And if you think it's happening so fast... you have no idea how much faster it will be after summer goes by!

View quoted message These are all fantastic ideas that I will 100% suggest to my fiance! I'm sure she'd like personalized signs and other decor items! Congratulations to you as well!!

Congrats on your engagement!!! you can do tons of custom signage that says "brides to be" or something like that. we actually dont have anything at our wedding that is gender specific no signs or anything. we have blue and pink as our decor colors as well! also our "guest book" is actually our engagement photo we are having everyone sign!!!

Congratulations! 🥳


I agree with what others have posted, I would be open about your situation in case vendors aren't open minded. It's easier to find out early than be heartbroken or stressed closer to your big day.
Otherwise I would say plan like any other couple would! We all have traditions we're throwing out or making our own.

Congratulations on your engagement and welcome to wedding wire. I won't be much help with LGBT wedding but I do wish you all the best and hope you have the wedding of your dreams. Your wedding date is very close to mine. I'm so loving the winter wedding vibe!

Amazon has a great variety of Gay wedding planner that can help to get everything you need to accomplish. Alternative is to go on the internet and look into the Gay Wedding Planner too and print out at home making it easier.
I used the WW checklist to do the same planning as a regular wedding and used most of what was suggested leaving some alone as it wasn't required.
Online shopping for gay cake toper and other items are amazing to know its available.

View quoted message Yep it’s a lot to think about for sure! I’ll definitely let you know if we find anything exciting at the show. Looking forward to it! Let us know how your show goes in Feb too!

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View quoted message Thanks! Hey you’re right close by! If you’re getting any vendors, feel free to let me know! Maybe I already met them before and can give you a heads up.

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Congratulations to you and your Boom as well! Such an exciting but intimidating thing planning a big event like a wedding don't you think? Even just beginning to plan is like "where to start?"! Definitely going to a bridal show will help immensely in getting ideas, making decisions and really setting the groundwork for the main event! Such a great idea! Though we would love to be able to go to the Toronto, we'll have to settle for the one closer to Hamilton in Ancaster in February. Wishing you all the best at the show next weekend! Let us know if you find out anything exciting!

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Aw that's so sweet of you! Thank you Meaghan! & Congratulations on your big day back in September!!

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Hi Geneviève!! That is some phenomenal advice! I'm trying my best to not be overwhelmed with the heteronomativity of all the wedding aspects & your words have definitely helped!! Thank you for your advice! Best of luck to you and your bride also!! Happy Planning!

Congratulations and welcome to wedding wire!
I don't have any experience planning an LGBT wedding but wanted to give my best wishes.

Hey Jaclyn! Firstly, congrats on your engagement! We are also planning a 2-bride wedding, but have only just started the very early planning stages so I don’t have much advice to offer at the moment. Just wanted to say hi and let you know that there are other Bride & Broom’s (that made us laugh!) here on WW if you ever want to reach out to say hi and talk weddings! We are attending the Canada Bridal Show in downtown TO next weekend to get some ideas and kick-start our planning so that may be worth you two looking at also! Happy planning

Welcome to wedding wire and welcome to the lgbt wedding party!
My fw and I have been planning ours for a while and the heteronormativity is real, but you can definitely have a wedding that has the traditional nods you want but still celebrate both of you in the non traditional route you’re looking for.
The main advice I have from our planning was to be very explicit with vendors about what your looking for, and unfortunately, that you’re both brides. We ran into a couple vendors who still assumed my fw to be a MOH even after emails or a couple that clearly weren’t comfortable with our business. You could ask people on here who they used (there’s a few of us!) and ask if that vendor isn’t close to you if they have any recommendations.Good luck and happy planning!