Has anyone done a grey vest with black pants

Since you already have a mismatched thing going on I would just have everyone wear a full coordinating suit. So if they have a black vest they should wear a matching black jacket/pants. Same for grey. It will probably look intentional if you end up with a gradient of greys to blacks similar to when you have bridesmaids in different shades of a colour.

I think if you try to mix and match black and grey in one outfit it's going to look like it was a mistake since they're pretty close in colour. Sort of similar to how when you pair navy and black it can look really wrong. Even if it's intentional, it's going to look like they got dressed in the dark. Just my two cents.

I think a pink shirt will look very nice and pink is my favorite color too. i am getting my future husnand to wear a pink suit to match the bridal party color

Look, I'm just giving my opinion (and for the record, I've always said what I wrote in this thread is just that: an opinion and not fact). You literally asked if certain things in your team's outfit worked and I offered my opinion.

I'm confused, because you literally said your groomsmen are wearing their own grey suits and your Best Man is wearing a black suit. So by suit, did you mean just the pants?

And is the groom wearing a pink tie over a pink shirt?

So the dilemma is, your groomsmen are upstaging your groom. How much this affects you is based on how much stock you put into classic menswear and formality rules but by definition, your groomsmen wearing a suit jacket means they are more formal than your groom, especially your Best Man since he's in black. Even your sons will be more formal since they're in white shirts while your groom is in pink. So your groom will definitely stand out but unfortunately, not for the best reasons, in my opinion.

What colour are the ties? And are you absolutely committed to your groom wearing a pink shirt?

Vests with ties but not a suit jacket is incredibly difficult to pull off, in my opinion. It either looks overly prom-y, makes people look like waiters or like they're part of a barbershop quartet.

Do you have a picture of your groom's outfit?

Just so I'm clear, you bought waistcoats that are designed and made for your fiance's suit to be worn by other people not wearing your fiance's suit?

Needless to say, having your sons wear black pants with a grey suit jacket and a different grey vest just to weirdly but not exactly match your Best Man is not a good idea. You made peace with your bridal party not matching so just let it go. It's much better to have everyone wear a proper suit than to have your sons of all people wear a Frankenstein of a getup to sort of match the Best Man of all people.

You do not need the same shade of white dress shirt. Just to re-emphasize this, stop trying to make people match. It's not necessary. Most of the white shirt will be covered up by the suit jacket, tie, and accessories anyway so no one will know whether the same is the same or not.

Why are you making your brother wear a bow tie if he's not a child? Shouldn't he have a neck tie like all the other adults?

Hi Sarah,

I totally could understand your frustrations and worries as I'm sure just about most brides-to-be would be questioning this too.

Some maid of honours have a similar look but their dress still stands out as different from the rest of the bridesmaids. Since your brother will be your Man of Honor, maybe him wearing a different shade of grey isn't a big deal? After all, it is in the same colour family and it would be no different than bridesmaids wearing different shades of the same colour family. It's more of a monochromatic look. My concern would be "does my groom stand out as "the groom"?".

Just curious - why is the best man wearing the black suit? Is he wearing a suit he already owns?

As for the bows, it would be nice for everyone to wear it since you purchased them already....Did your brother have something else in mind or express why not the bow?