Handling "bossy" bridal party members

I think you need to speak to her about it ASAP. Advice and opinions are fine, and generally welcome, but she is not to dictate or decide your wedding for you. Stand firm for your ideas and your vision even if it is to family!

You just need to tell her straight up how it's going to be and if she can't get on board then she needs to back off.

Pull her aside and tell her gently and firmly that you are excited she's excited about your wedding but she has to be able to see your vision of your day because you can't have anyone in your bridal party that isn't there to stand by you and back you up rather than take things over. And to let you at least get out your ideas for your wedding. Or another approach is after she's done talking you can go ahead and tell people what "you and your fiance are actually thinking about doing". Maybe after a few times of that happening and them pulling her aside she'll finally understand how serious you are.

Also if you don't straighten this out now it could continue and ruin you and your husband-to-be's big day. Remember you are also advocating for your fiances ideas now too. I have seen cases where the sister or family member take it into their hands to change a decision the bride and groom have decided on, behind their back, and the change isn't evident until their wedding day.

If she really isn't listening to you, ask a parent or a good friend to talk to her. So she can see how this is making you feel and affecting you. In the end other people are going to try and force you into decisions you don't want so, this will be a good practice run for the rest of your family who will think this is their chance to throw their own party extravaganza rather than celebrating you and your husband.

All I can advise is to nip this behaviour in the bud right away. The longer you allow it to go on, the harder it will be.

If it were me, I think I would talk to her and tell her that she needs to back off and let me make the decisions, and that I would like her to be my MOH but I can't include her with this behaviour. I bet that would make her shape up pretty fast.

My bridal party consists of my 3 older sisters and a long time family friend. Everyone including myself is very laid back so this planning thing has been a breeze so far!

Hello Marissa,

You will eventually have to take charge and tell her straight up your concerns. Unfortunately it may come off as being rude but its YOUR wedding so you need to make sure that you are making decisions based on what YOU want. Advise is greatly appreciated but you should have the final say in everything. And if she doesn't agree with you, then maybe she's not cut out to be in your wedding. A little harsh but the last thing you need is to have someone else's wedding. These times leading up to your wedding should be the happiest!

Good luck with the planning!