Guests Changing Rsvps or Large Amount of No's?

While i was looking for ideas on glowsticks this popped up on my pintrest homepage and i immediately thought of this postXD

My biggest fear is going through all of this and planning for 170 (we invited 250) and having 50 show up or no one....

I invited people from the USA to come to my wedding in Ontario and those individuals declined in their RSVPs. I know it could be due to travel across the border during COVID or it’s because my cousin could very well be having her wedding the same weekend or around the same time (I notified family last November - so family knew our Save the Date time). Oh well.


I had those few no’s and decided to invite a few more friends for our second round of invites. Out of 60 guests we have 45 say yes so far. We are still waiting for 5-10 more replies of yes or no.
My FH and I discussed this before, as much as it would be great for all to attend, we invited the people that matter most to us. And in the end, the people who are able to be there will make us happy. No need to stress with having everyone say yes. Your wedding still will be memorable and special.

View quoted message Absolutely. If you nit pick at everything you will go crazy. It is what it is in the end

View quoted message Smaller weddings usually save unless you have that minimum which we do....I've been asking people to come eat, drink and be merry. It just seems like such a waste to pay for food no one is eating.....

View quoted message 100% I'm not sorry for a more intimate kind of wedding. It'll be nice to have more time for the ones who do come 😊

View quoted message I'm so sorry, that sucks. I have to agree with the others here - let's focus on the people that are coming! 💕

View quoted message Hahahaha this is so true, we are realizing this! Thank you. 💕

View quoted message This is a lovely idea 💕 thank you!

View quoted message I tried to switch to that mindset this morning ❤️ it's too tiring to stress about those who aren't coming, there's enough to worry about without that!

View quoted message That's very true. 50 is a lovely intimate number 💕

View quoted message This is a good idea, but I think it's too late at this point! We're less than a month out.

Do you have a back-up list? I know its last minute, but you would be surprised about some of those who would of loved to go but didn't get an invite. Our maximum is 32 (including bride and groom), so we have a guest list A; this has all the 30 people we want to invite - usually includes family and close friends. Then we have a guest list B that's about 10 people, distant relatives and more friends and lastly guest list C - this has any co-workers that we get along with but don't really hang out with outside of work.

I wouldn't worry about it, they may be really excited for you and when the invite came out they had other engagements, also keep in mind destination weddings tend to through people off especially when they need to pay for accommodations and travel then wedding gifts, it adds up to them.

50 is still a good amount of people and it will still be an amazing day.

I wouldn't worry about. Honestly don't stress about who is coming and not coming. It's not worth it, what matters most is who is coming.

I wouldn't worry about it, things come up all the time...perhaps look at offering a live feed for those who cannot attend in person.

We had a list of 65 and are now at 49. Don’t stress about who is coming or not. The people that matter will be there.
Also.. smaller weddings save money. So that’s just an added bonus 😉

We have found quite a few people have turned to nos since our January date even. 10 people that said yes in January have changed their minds....