Guest Lists and Plus Ones

Your not obligated to give Plus ones to all guests. Individuals in serious relationships and you know about, they should be invited upon your choice. Families as one. The one advice is to be specific with names on the labels and if you have RSVP cards, put the number to prevent more being invited from every household. Its hard enough to keep the numbers to the venues limit.

Even pre covid, our invites were for couples as a unit and no one received “plus ones”. People in relationships should always be invited as a unit, additional plus ones are not necessary, especially during a pandemic.

There's no such thing as polite or rude when it comes to who to invite to a restricted pandemic wedding. If anything, it's rude for people to think they're entitled to bring someone to attend in another's place when circumstances don't allow it.

In order to make it work with restrictions, we're cutting +1 regardless if they're dating short term, long term, married, or have children. And we're definitely cutting children. The only exception is if we know both people prior to them entering a relationship (ex I know my groomsman for as long as I know his wife, well before they married and both are equally my friends).

You just have to do what you have to do in order to make it work.

My mistake, I didn't mean to imply that a committed couple without children would be any less committed, it just so happens in our case that the only unmarried couple where I have never met one half of the couple happens to be raising children together