Guest list woes

Not everyone can make it. but also you dont have to invite some kids. are there any people youve drifted from recently that you foresee not really talking to them as much in the future?
if so they can go.

I definitely have more on my side than my FH lol, but I also had more declines. We invited 148 in total. Right now, I'm sitting at 111 confirmed, 21 have declined and waiting to hear from 16 (all my side). Our RSVP deadline date was September 1 and some are still dragging their feet -.-

You could have 2 rounds of invitations like Tori said. Once you get enough no's, you could send out the 2nd round.

Guest list is something to make compromise on based on family and friends. If you two have set a limit yet you have a big family and wish to invite more, I don't see an issue with that, family is important and I feel that way. Its best to sit down and go through and say yes or no to the names needing cut or stay based on numbers you want to stay at under 100.

Flower kids as I call it being fair seem reasonable to invite as being adults at this point. It is stressful to go through this process, yet it will feel better once its done and knowing you will have the invitations ready next with the names printed as needed.

As for invitations, Vistaprint is a great site and wait for savings up to half the price. It allows you to add lines wherever needed and images.

Just had my second round of invitations RSVP deadline pass yesterday - and although I can agree with the % of declines - I was waaaaay too anxious to send out for over 300 people when our venue had a maximum of 250.

I suggest having 2 rounds of invitations and send out the others as soon as you get a No.

Right? Some people act like it's a birthday party and are just like oh, yeah, we have to wash our hair that day, sorry!
And then it seems half will act like your RSVP date is a suggestion.

I thought the same thing, everything was a breeze for me, until it came to the guest list, and people get so damn offended. We invited 160, our RSVP date was Sept 1, right now we are sitting at 96, 20 said no, and still waiting to hear from 26 (really just chasing them lol). So keep in mind there will be a big chunk that may not come. Our wedding is on a Friday, and even with a year notice, certain family members did not make it a big deal to come.

It's estimated that between 10 and 20% of guests usually RSVP no. So that would put you at an attendance of about 89-100. As you will be a winter bride, like me, (yay January 2020!) you may get on the higher level of no RSVPs as depending on how much your guests need to travel for your wedding some people are more reluctant to travel in the winter.