So we have a fairly tight guest list, there will be 100 people max at our wedding, including ourselves and the wedding party. We wanted something more intimate so that we aren't feeling pulled in every direction all night, and can really enjoy the company of our closest people. On top of that, catering for that amount of people can get $$$ so we firmly set our guest count to work with our budget.
One of the ways that we decided to keep our guest count more meaningful was to do away with plus ones, along with spouses that we've never met. We just really don't want to miss out on sharing our day with the people we love, to include strangers that we've never even met before. Because of this we initially decided that we weren't going to do Save the Dates, since they don't have the guests' names on them like an invitation. We're trying to avoid people assuming that their spouse is invited and then having a fit when the invitation comes later and finding out who is ACTUALLY invited. Now I know some might say that I'm over thinking this but the last two weddings my family had there was all sorts of guest list drama from my aunts and uncles, and I just have no desire to play these games on our wedding day. At the last wedding someone straight up didn't go and now they don't talk to the bride & groom anymore because my cousins long term girlfriend who've none of us have ever even met was listed as a plus one instead of having her name on the invitation. So I'm treading very nervously 😮💨
So I'm looking for some advice on how to handle this because we do want to let people know to save our date, but we want it to be clear who is invited. Would it be weird to list guests on our save the dates? Should we just send out our invitations super early?
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