Hey everyone,
Almost done ironing out the guest list for sending out invitations. We're writing in how many seats each household gets on the invitation so hopefully people won't write in plus ones and children.
As for children, we established that since most cousins are over 16, as a ground rule, no one except for the flower girl and ring bearer will be under 16. Also, we are only inviting cousins on each side, no children of cousins since we aren't as close and they almost all fall into the under 16 rule (2 are adults, but again don't really know them and they're more estranged from the family).
However, there always seems to be an exception to the rule, and that is my one 12 year old cousin. I am closer to him than the 20 year old daughter of my cousin that isn't invited, but if people see that he's there, I fear they'll get offended that one kid was invited but their 4+ kids weren't. Is there a way to explain to cousins with kids that yes, there will be a random 12 year old there, but he's close to the family? Should I cross him off the list even though we are close? Give him a job at the wedding (i.e. usher/ring bearer supervisor) so people aren't up-in-arms?
