Guest list roadblock 😬

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My fiancé wanted no one at his wedding. Said he didn’t want to put people through that again. Wow. Finally I convinced him that he had to have some family there. Now his list is bigger than mine and has cousins that I’ve never even meet. We are having a small wedding but with all those cousins invited I can hardly even invite my own friends. It can be frustrating for sure. I to and taking care of everything but there are just something he has to be involved with.

What I did with my husband was I put together a guest list based on who we talked about inviting ahead of time and then showed it to him. If he had changes he could make them. I think it helped seeing things already sort of put together.

Maybe try telling your fiance that he can make suggestions, but just flat out saying no is unproductive so if he says no to something, he needs to offer up suggestions as well. Guys can be a bit of a roadblock when it comes to wedding planning...I get it!

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My fiancé is also the "I don't want to be involved" type. He's giving his opinion on what I present him with, however, I am doing the research, setting up appointments, etc. It's difficult feeling like you're doing things alone.

Really glad to hear that you guys are making progress though!

Just be honest with him, my fiance was this way at first. Then his parents started asking to invite people he barely knew and then all of a sudden he had a bunch of people he wanted to invite to fill the space lol

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Glad to hear you're back on track! Guest lists can be super stressful.

So after reviewing everything we’ve decided on so far, he’s warming up quickly to inviting friends. He just needed to take a minute and actually think about this. (He would rather not be involved with any of the planning) were back on the right track again 👌

My FH and I originally wrote our own lists, family first and then friends. The first list was our C list and Included pretty much all family and friends. We had the opposite problem as we want a smaller wedding but the original list was over 200 people. (I come from a large family) We decided to limit the number of people by each having so many people they can invite. We both had to make some compromises, but now we have our A list down to where we want it. (80ppl). They are the most important people in our lives. If we get a larger venue, we also have our B list at 120 people. It was easiest to start separate and then work together to get our numbers where we want them.

Maybe you guys can write up two separate guest lists and then talk about them and compromise to make an official one for the wedding. Small weddings are really fun! We had 77 people total at our wedding including ourselves. It was really nice to be able to talk to everyone at some point for longer than 3 seconds lol

Is he wanting to cut down as some have had only family. I know you want to invite friends and others. Have him consider whats important and whos been there throughout his life and want to celebrate this day. You shouldn't hold back knowing who you want to invite.

I went to a wedding recently and there were only about 30 people there. A lot of the older family members left a little early but everyone else who stayed were on the dance floor until about 3am and it was a blast. It all depends on who’s in the group I guess. But I do agree you need to talk to your fiancé about what you both envision for that day!

Maybe you two have different visions of the crowd you want to spend the night with and need to talk it out to get a better feel for what each other are thinking!

Does he have a reason behind his vito on your guests? This is a shame because the guest-list is half the fun!