Guest list? a breeze or a pain?

If your questioning inviting them it’s a no! Trust your gut

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We had that worry at one point too... We needed 40 to get the size of space we wanted and at one point we weren't sure we would get 40. There were a few we changed on our minds on later so we got our number up!

I started with a list of everyone I could think that I wanted to invite and everyone I thought my FH would like to invite. I grew up as an only child (though on my father's side I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters) the FH is an only child so our families are very small. I will invite my sister's as I've had a relationship with them but I will not invite my brothers since I don't even have their phone numbers.... every person I could think of was less than 100 people which was so easy for us... I think I'm more worried about not making our minimum rather than hitting our maximum.

Guest lists are easy or hard based on the couple. Family for the most part makes up half to 3/4 and the rest being friends and co workers.

Our number was less than 100 since we had to budget venue costs per person editing from starting 107 guests down to 72.

Ours is fairly easy, our reception venue can hold up to 400 people and as of now, I believe we have invited 325-350.

Our parents did want to invite some friends, which was fine, as our guest capacity allowed for extra people.

It'll be interesting to see how many actually come.

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It's hard to get a number first and try to stay in that. We made a ball park and anyone that put us over that plan we had to really evaluate if we wanted them there.

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That's great!

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I'm with you on that, Luckily our parents didn't make us do anything.. but I would not be happy about inviting people that I didn't really want to.

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I had the same rule about no kids but no one challenged us which was nice. And also no new partners were invited either. No tinder dates coming to our wedding, thank you!

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That's what it came down to me for me, there are a couple that I'm still not sure I made the right decision, but I am ok with that.

For me, I was really guilty for leaving people out. I didn't invite many co-workers or casual acquaintances. I had to think to myself, will my wedding be the same without this person? Then I knew if they were invited or not.

The struggle wasn't so much making the guestlist, but more maintaining a united front about certain rules (no +1, no kids, no exceptions). My FH doesn't retain information very well and can't really put his foot down, which drove me nuts. So even though my side has zero +1 (talking singles and new-ish relationships here), he agreed on a bunch for his cousins and then complains that our numbers aren't going down *facepalm*

It was a stressful thing for as as well because we wanted to keep numbers down. However since visiting the venue as it was set up for wedding, we feel a bit more relaxed about inviting a couple people we were on the fence about. My mom hasn’t put pressure on me about who to invite although my fiancé’s dad has been insistent on inviting a couple of people which has been annoying. We are inviting them but I don’t like that I feel pressured to

My fiancé and I also want an intimate wedding of 50-60. We found it fairly easy. We chose people who are the closest to us and could see being in our lives for a very long time. Easiest part - no coworkers. Immediate family and closest friends only. Best decision we’ve made! Every one that will be there will truly be there for both of us.

We are finding it alot harder then fist thought. Originally we were going with 75 but atm we are at 120. Idk what to do at this point. That is a big difference on prices, so that will ultimately decide on how many in the end

For the most part, I am finding it fairly easy. Since all the invites have gone out our guest list is officially closed and no more additions lol.

We knew we wanted no kids, and it was all good with the family. The only kids coming are out immediate nieces and nephews (there are 10 total from both sides) and that was it. But then the comments have just recently started flowing. If they are over 16, then that is fine, but anyone younger than that, if they are not immediate they are not invited.

My parents were good with the guest list I came up with, it was basically anyone we see on a regular basis. My FH's family was a bit different being Italian and from a large family. We cut it to some cousins and that was about it.

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That's more our reasoning too, since we have an open bar.

For the most part, it's 16 and over, but we will have two 12 year olds but I'm not as worried since they will be staying at the hotel, they are both really independent and can leave to go to their rooms if they get bored lol. We were more concerned about anyone under 10 since parents need to keep an eye on their younger kids.

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We opted for no kids too.. I like the idea of none under 16. The youngest person at our wedding was 17. We just wanted everyone to be able to relax and have fun and not have to worry about little eyes everywhere. We told our guests to make it a date night.

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I did the same thing with some work people knowing the different shifts.. I knew they were working so they couldn't make it, but then I thought - ya know what? I should have still maybe invited them and let them make that decision. It was all so so difficult for me.

This was the hardest part for me. We are from Winnipeg (as are 90%) of our guests and are having a small wedding in Canmore. I have guilt over making people pay to travel (even though, how doesn't love Canmore?) so I hesitated or decided not to invite a few people because I didn't want them to feel obligated financially. I now wish I invited all of them and just talked to them to let them know we'd understand if they cant make it. That being said, I expected a lot more nos that we got, so maybe it's for the best? I think I'll always look back a little and wonder on this one.

Ours was pretty easy. It's all family and just a few close friends.

It was fairly easy, I had my side of the family on invites, and my friends. FH came up with his friends and family - with some help from his sister.

The one thing we were stuck on is kids vs. no kids. We went back and forth on it for awhile since the biggest factor was cousin's kids were 25 extra people we didn't really know. We decided to ax cousin's kids, and any other kids under 16 unless they were immediate family (i.e. in the wedding party). Sometimes I'm still struggling on thinking this is the right way to go, but so far, only person has commented about it (there was valid reasons in it too).

My parents did come at me with their suggestions, but luckily 90% were added since I knew and was close to them, and they would make our day fun! They weren't older, distant relatives, but family friends.