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Yes you can do no kids. just dont pick as choose whose kids can come. either all no kids or all kids. i hate as a guest when theres drama over so and so was allowed to bring their kid i should have brought mine etc

I do agree with Taylor though I am on the edge of what I said. Taylor is right about inviting few kids and not the rest making it feel biased to others that will say something.

Either go kid friendly or Adults only unless its your kids only being there. Fairness needs to be given in some way to your guests.

I think if you tell one person not to bring their kids but not another then you will create a huge disaster just waiting to hit. Its all kids or no kids (unless you have kids of your own then thats different).

Even with children we stayed under our 100 maximum. I personally love going to weddings where my kids can't come but if they want to being and take care of their kids that's up to them. If kids would have gone over our max I would not have had them invited. I think there are only 5 altogether under 18 and 2 of them are my own children....

You set the ground rules to what you feel is best to work towards how many kids to be invited.

Thank you to everyone one, it's definitely helped me figure out my FH's guest list

I feel like more people are opting for no-kids at the wedding for a variety of reasons. We are having a limited number of kids, all kids (excluding flower girl and ring bearer) are 16 and over. We also limited who's kids, cousins who are 16-18 are allowed, but any kids of cousins (oldest is 15) were not since we don't know them as well and they alone would increase the guest list by 25 people!

The best way to accomplish a no-kids wedding is to make ground rule(s) and stick by them -except for any children of immediate family (i.e. your own kids, younger siblings, nieces and nephews).

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We did no children except for immediate family. There are ways around it. Just make up your rules and stick to your guns.

You could say no children, and if you do a wedding website in the FAQ page say the only kids attending are part of the wedding party.

No kid wedding for me and my FH! As is with our families our max. capacity of 250 doesn't fit everybody so we had to have a 2nd wave of invites based off of the no's that were RSVP'd. We of course knew that since kids weren't apart of our wedding that we would bet some people say no to coming as they don't love us enough (they have other family who could have looked after their 12, 13, and 15 year olds...) so those empty spots we were able to send out new invites. Right now it looks like we may not even need a 3rd wave like we thought!

Do what you and your FH want - it's your wedding and you have the ability to say you are paying for it. My FH's cousin is getting married next weekend and she is doing no kids as well. She doesn't want to pay $80/plate for a 4 year old who won't eat it.

It’s your day! You can do whatever you want 🙂
We only have 22 guests, if we invited all of their kids too, we would have 39 guests. No thank you 😂

It is 100% ok. It is your day!

We are doing the same thing. Between my FH and myself, we have 10 nieces and nephews from our siblings. Those are the only children who will be coming to the wedding as 2 are in the wedding and we can't exclude everyone else.

Plus, some of our siblings will be arranging for other family members not coming to the wedding to take the kids after dinner so the parents can party!

That's completely fine! We are paying for our wedding ourselves and due to large family on his side we said no children- adult only event which helped a large amount. This way you don't have to worry about entertaining them or people leaving early due to children or people just not watching children at the reception time either.

We said no children at all other than FH's sister who is 8. I'm the second of the long list of kids in my generation of family and there is a huge age gap. And my brother already has two of his own. It works out mathematically to be literally more children than adults. And I was not up for that even slightly.

We’re only inviting kids of immediate family because they will be 1 or younger and the people who may have been able to watch them will be at the wedding.

We aren’t inviting kids of friends or kids of distant family. I didn’t want kids at all but my FH did so we compromised.

View quoted message That's a good idea! But with my wedding my brother is going to be 13 and is a junior groomsmen and we have one of his cousins little girl as our flower girl. This why we're a little conflicted

We had a no kids wedding.. I think it gets more tricky if you are only inviting some kids and not others - people may wonder why.. but you could explain if it was an age limit you decided on.

We sent a note with our invites saying it was an adults only invite and to take advantage and make it a date night. It was very well received by all our guests.