Groomsmaid(s) - Has anyone had any? Is anyone planning on having any?

Yeah, I'm finding it hard to envision too, so I hope our wedding helps others in the same situation! I didn't like the idea of having the best woman in a dress either, so I'm glad she was good to wear a suit/pantsuit.

I'm glad to hear everything worked out and your FMIL will not like what she hears and will have to bear what happens. Its nice to know that your path leading to your day is clear to go.

Yep! My FH has more girls on his side than guys.

Only one of them will be in a dress since she is the most femme of them all, but the plan is for everyone on his side to wear a boutonnière. This will help set them apart from bridesmaids.

We are also an LGBT+ couple and friend group, so we've got every identity you can imagine in our bridal party. Transmen and women, non-binary friends, a couple of drag kings, etc.

It has been difficult for us because the initial thought was to have my FH's brother stand by his side, but unfortunately my future MIL has caused some unnecessary drama and his brother was willing out of obligation, but not because he wanted to be there for his brother. I know this hurt him very deeply and he decided to go with his Uncle instead. My future MIL will turn her nose at a lot of the details of our wedding. I would have loved her to be part of the planning, but unfortunately she has no desire to be involved at all. At one point my FH had considered cancelling the wedding altogether (and losing our non-refundable deposits) because he knew that organizing his side of the bridal party was going to be difficult because of his Mom, but I told him that we will figure it out and make it work and we will have the best wedding ever, his Mom will not ruin it for us. It just worked out that my one daughter was already complaining about wearing a dress when I came up with the idea of a groomsmaid. My future MIL will freak out when she learns that my ex-husband, the father of my children, will be walking me down the aisle. We are as non-traditional as they come. My father has been absent since childhood and my Mother passed 12 years ago. My ex-husband is happily married now to his husband of 5 years and he is one of mine and my FH's best friends. It only seems fitting in this situation. He was so honoured that I had asked him.

Thank you Allison! I have seen a few examples on Pinterest and such. But, I would love to different options, because most on Pinterest show the groomsmaid wearing a dress in the colour of the men's suits, but I'd prefer more a pantsuit. Can't wait to see your photos! Wishing you all the best on your wedding!

My FH's best person is his college buddy, who just happened to be female, so we are having a best woman! She's wearing a suit that is either identical or matches the groomsmen's suits, but will have a purple tie while the groomsmen have teal ties.

I think it's more common to have whoever on each side, regardless of gender. Most of our guests are pretty progressive/non-traditional thinking but there might be a few older ones that think it's odd still, especially since our best woman's wife is also going to the wedding, and they will probably dance together, but I don't really care what they'd think lol

I'll definitely have photos once I have my wedding, in 3 months!!

Its nice to hear that the family is standing up and groomsmen and groomsmaid. Seems special to be a nice selection that isn't done much these days. Your daughter seems happy with the choice and what she would have chosen if anything than wearing a dress.

Groomsmaid and Bridesgroom are becoming a norm that is changing in a good way. I like the idea of how everything has been thought out and FH is good with his side. Its hard at times to know whom to ask when your limited in knowing others that close to you for FH.

We have a bridesman and a groomsmaid - it's pretty common nowadays! Ours is a simple, small wedding, so they will be wearing whatever they want (within reason, of course). But, I was at a wedding last summer and the groom's sister was a groomsmaid and she wore a dress the same color as the groomsmen (navy) that was in the same style as the bridesmaids dresses (they were in grey) and it looked great.

Let others say what they will - and do what works best for you and your FH. I like the idea of the matching pantsuit!

You're absolutely right! I'm sure there will be more said regardless! Everyone has an opinion.

FYI my FH's name is also before mine on our invitations. I honestly thought it looked better lol. Aside from the fact that my name is hyphenated and I thought the shorter name was nicer on the eyes!

There's always going to be something said unfortunately... My own Baba (Grandma) was asking me why I would put my FH's name on the invitation before mine! Well... because it looked better? Idk, it sounded better? Let's go with because I proposed to him? Why does it matter??? lol

Awesome! I agree! Do what we feel is right! It's the bride and groom's special day!

My MIL has been difficult thus far, but thankfully isn't part of the planning. I'm sure she will have something to say about most of the non-traditional planning in our wedding. Not that it really matters, honestly.

Yay! I'm not alone on WW with a groomsmaid!

My bridesmaids will be wearing burgundy and the groomsmen will have burgundy ties - my groomsmaid daughter will be wearing black - same colour as the groomsmen's suits.

Are you planning on posting wedding photos after your wedding? I would love to see them (since you're getting married before me)

Oh that's becoming more and more of a thing. Nowadays people are doing what feels right and not caring about how it looks to others. My own FH is having 2 BestMen and I am only having 1 MOH! He couldn't pick, so why pick???

I haven't been to a wedding with this happen, but I honestly wouldn't bat an eye. If I saw it I would assume the Groomsmaid was either related to or besties with the Groom over the Bride. If I saw a Bridesman I would assume that they are related to or besties with the Bride.