Groom taking the Brides Surname

I trully believe this is great, if only i could have my FH do the same but he is one of the last in his line with the name.

I don't see this as a problem at all. I have heard of people doing this for various reasons and it is totally up to the couple as far as I am concerned. I don't think people will really ask about it unless they know and if they pass judgement I think that says more about them than you guys.

My cousin took his wife's last name since her family had all girls and he came from a large family with other brothers to carry on the name. Everyone thought it was a really sweet gesture. If people have the time and energy to attempt to tease a grown man, then that says something about their character, not yours and your husband's.

Another option would be to both keep your own last names, but if you have kids, give them your last name instead of his.

Every couple takes one's last name. He os good and does feel proud to take your family's name.

View quoted message Thank you so much! I am excited to share this post and the replies with him because everyone has been so supportive and encouraging, so thank you! I would love to create a name but I feel that name would anger even more people on both his side and my side, which is sad. Thank you for your good wishes and positive words!

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That's true! I think the patriarchy has governed what we do with our weddings for too long and it is totally fine to be different! The paperwork is definitely a discouragement but not a deal breaker for us! Thank you for your encouragement, I am so glad that everyone thus far has been supportive!

View quoted message You are certainly right when it comes to judgments from his family! His mother guilt-tripped us and told us that the only reason she kept her terrible estranged husband's surname was so that her grandchildren would have the same name as her! Talk about dramatic! I agree the hyphenations may work for some but it is not a possibility for us due to our names being quite similar phonetically. Thank you so much for your response! I think that the people close to us won't mind but that his family will be our greatest hurdle.

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Thank you so much for your reply! I think it is original too, I just don't want him to feel like others will be unkind! Your opinion makes me think that the people who matter to us won't care, and that's what matters.

Thank you again!

I think it's fine for him to take your last name. I think the only judgments will come from his family and that could be more out of hurt or jealousy than anything. I think it's legit reasons for him wanting to take your last name.

My mom had friends who hyphenated their last names for a similar reason (his adopted father was not a good guy so he thought by having his last name slightly different, people would not associate him to his dad). But, when he started his own business he realized that was not the case and he and his wife changed their last name entirely to his birth father's name.

Id say go for it. Society has progressed so far that really its almost abnormal to do things the traditional way now. My FHs brother considered taking his wifes name when they got married... Then he didnt want to do the paperwork and they each decided to keep their own names.

I'd say go for it! In today's society people are always doing things differently and choosing different over traditional. I personally would never tease a man for taking his wife's last name, I'd give him a big high five! Also an option is creating a name, it's been happening more and more, either mashing your names together or just creation a whole new one and starting a whole new family name to pass down. With whatever you choose I wish you the best of luck!!

My first thought is "Ooooo original, against the grain, I love that theres a story!" I personally wouldn't think any less of him or his family, I would wonder about the story. I think its between you and him and concerns noone else. With ANYTHING everyone has their own opinions..noone is ever happy with everything. This has nothing to do with them, I think its a really cool idea.