Getting married on Nov/2020

View quoted message We’re pretty set with the civil to give my mom a “peace of mind”. My fiancé and I both want that so we avoid any sort of conflict in the future with her We are only having about 15 people to keep it casual and won’t tell everybody else till it’s done. Thanks for your suggestion though

I wouldnt do a civil wedding beforehand. move in together first then decide what you want to do. once people find out youre having a civil wedding everyone will want to show up on that date (it happened to my cousin who ended up having a huge party that same day). i would save it and do a big thing (or small) in a year from now.

Make sure you can book a hall for the one year anniversary.... that way it's all set and ready to go.

View quoted message Agreed! Thank you! ❤️

View quoted message We do but at the same time we like to give my mom a peace of mind so we thought of a civil this year instead. So that’s why we were thinking of having just my in-laws, his grandparents, my mom and sisters at the civil then our full guest list next year. Thank you for your suggestion though.

Eloping works if you feel its right for you and FH to move in together starting a new chapter as a married couple. The first year anniversary can be your wedding vow renewal with family and friends present.

Reception can follow after however you choose to make it happen.

I don't think you need to tell anyone about the civil ceremony. In the context of a destination wedding, a lot of people do the legal thing here to avoid any problems with paperwork in a foreign country, and simply don't tell their guests. I don't see a difference with this. That way, your mom is happy you're not living in sin, and everyone else can enjoy a lovely ceremony in November next year

View quoted message Thank you for your comment as well! I wonder if it will be confusing for people though? Or what should we tell everyone?

I agree with Tori and have your civil ceremony and wedding the same day, but a year apart so it's on your one-year anniversary!

View quoted message Thanks Tori! I supposed it’s not very common here. My fiancé is Canadian and I’m from the Philippines and grew up in a Christian family. So yeah, my mom thinks that it’s not right for us to move in before getting some sort of blessing. I guess it’s more of a cultural difference too.

Thats what I was thinking too! We’re doing this for her piece of mind. I guess it’s a better idea to actually move the wedding date the same as the civil then. Thanks!

I haven't heard of this because a Mom or Dad isn't okay with the "kids" "living in sin", but people have done a quick ceremony in order to get married before a loved one passed away and have the "wedding" later.

If you do go through with the civil ceremony for your Mom's piece of mind then I would just say that if I were you I would pick a day that the following year you have the mock ceremony and wedding reception on the same day which would be your 1 year anniversary