Getting Married Anyways (may 2021)

Hey!! Our wedding is on January 16th,2021.. coming up real quick!! It’s been a complete roller coaster planning and even getting excited because of all the constant covid restrictions. My fiancé and I have decided to have our ceremony on our date regardless because his mom starts chemo treatment this week and later on won’t be able to attend so at least she can be a part of our special day. And made plan b to have a nice dinner at a restaurant and have our first dances in our living room lol 🥺 and will postpone our reception later on in the year if we have to. I’ve accepted it and the only thing I care about is just being able to marry my best friend. I’ve always dreamt about a big wedding as I have a huge family, but we will still host it live on Facebook so our friends and family can at least watch our ceremony. It’s been a really tough decision and almost feel like We’ve been “robbed” of our special day I waited my whole life for, but yeah at the end of the day the most important thing are our parents and siblings being with us and just having our intimate ceremony and can always party later on. Wish you all the best and praying it at least goes back to 50 ppl again by then!! ❤️❤️

Your 3rd option of intimate wedding with the photographer and Officiant seems enough and hold back on the reception celebrations for the full guest list. Getting a family member to record the wedding may be an idea and put on youtube for family to see or email to everyone you want.

This is the time to consider saving the effort of a huge wedding during the pandemic. The shut down time is just another set back for all couples to rearrange dates and vendors.

View quoted message Congrats! I know how hard it is to wait to move in with the love of your life! The time will fly by and hopefully no matter what the day looks like it is able to be so special for you 😊

My fiance and I are getting married July 17th, 2021 and we just got engaged this year. I am also in the same boat as you, we have been dating for 5 years and are not living together for religious reasons so we are super excited to finally be together all the time. We decided regardless of what happens we will still have our full wedding as planned no matter what happens, we really don't want to get married and move the reception to another date due to family across Canada coming down. We decided to send out all our invites as normal and just ask everyone for their email addresses in case if we need to make any changes due to Covid-19. Offically 7 months till I marry the love of my life today, im so excited 😍😍😍

Hi,
My fiancé and I aren’t going to postpone our wedding as well. We will get married on our chosen date, and we have very similar ideas, another idea we are also adding to our back up plan is outdoor because if it’s similar to this year outdoor can have more people attending. good luck on your wedding plans and fingers crossed covid is slowing down by the time you get married.

We are getting married on May 23rd 2021. After postponing once we are having our wedding regardless. It will be to whatever restrictions we have at the time. We just want to be married. I am still just as excited about it even if its not what we planned on. Honestly, I say do what you feel is right for the both of you. In the end it is your special day however you do it and when.

We are getting married June 18/21 and I have three guest lists currently. 1) the full guest list no restrictions around 140 people. 2) guest list of 100 in case we are still under some type of restrictions (our venue is public and in all colour codes of Ontario you can have 100 outside at a public venue with protocols in place - I believe) this is what we are operating on. So I have two sets of rsvp cards lol. One for the first 100 and then for the second round for people who may not want to attend we still have room to invite more. It’s exhausting really lol 3) a guest list of under 50 which is immediate family and wedding party. Just keeping fingers crossed that everybody understands that it’s absolutely not in out control!

Hi,

The two things that will allow us to proceed with our dream wedding in June are: the US border opening, and the limit on social gatherings to increase to 150 indoors. We will postpone again simply because we want all of our close friends and family there. We might get married and have our reception at a later date if that's not the case.

My fiance and I cancelled our April 2021 Punta Cana wedding and rescheduled in Toronto for July 2021. I've been engaged for almost 2 years and I just plan on reducing the guestlist for COVID protocols for that time.

View quoted message I agree girl! The uncertainty is so frustrating! Like there's vendors we want to book but we don't want to be throwing deposits around again. And yes, at the end of the day it's not the glam and decor of the wedding itself. It's the unshakable love you and your fiancé / future hubby have ❤️❤️❤️❤️

View quoted message Exciting we’re date twins


I hear that. Sometimes it’s hard to stay excited when everything feels uncertain, but I think you have the right perspective of thinking about the future and not letting all of this keep you from your awesome future to come! I know that’s what I’ve been doing. It’s really put a spotlight on what a marriage means, and takes a huge focus away from the giant party we’re all used to. Kind of like we’re going back in time a bit lol

We are moving forward, full steam ahead for our May wedding. Our guestlist is only about 40 right now, so I'm hoping that we are able to go ahead with that, but who knows! We haven't really talked about what we would do if restrictions are still where they are now with only 10 people, but I just want to get married and live our lives - probably something we should discuss.

I don't blame you for wanting to get married anyways, probably ready to start your lives together!

Not trying to be a Debbie Downer but has anyone else who had to postpone their wedding this year kinda just lost the magic? There's times where I get random outbursts of excitement and then other times I don't feel anything anymore. To be honest I haven't really been having any wedding talk with my bride squad either. My fiancé and I have decided though that no matter what we WILL be Mr&Mrs! We just want to be married and start a family! Sometimes we even feel of just having it super private with our parents, nieces, siblings, officiant and our bridal party

View quoted message Omg wedding date twins!!! This is our new date as well!

Hey! I got your personal message. For months my app has not allowed me to send personal messages to others. I have no idea why. But here is the answers to your questions.

So, we had a late ceremony. Our ceremony started at 6:00PM and was over by 6:30PM. This was perfect for me because I got to sleep in a little bit and take my time in the morning. My bridesmaids and I had lunch around 1 and started hair and makeup at 2. Limo picked us up for 5:30PM. The ceremony was half an hour only (6-6:30pm). Cocktail hour was 6:30-7:30PM. Food was not allowed, so guests just mingled and had some drinks. Right after we did first dances. Dinner was 7:45PM-roughly 10PM. We had speeches during each course. Appetizer was best man and maid of honour course. Pasta course was my husbands mom and dads speech. Entree was my parents speech. and Dessert my husband and I gave a speech. After dinner service, we all gathered around and mingled and danced in our social circles. It was very fun, everyone had a great time. We didn't have any games. My husband had cigars for whoever wanted to go outside. So most men mingled outside the winery. The wedding was over by midnight. We went to our hotel and had a small after party with our wedding party.

We are planning to go ahead no matter what. Our list is only 50 guest including us. If we can't have 50 people inside we will only have our ceremony this year on April 30th and then next year same date is when we would push our reception to. If our ceremony has to be limited were okay with that, we just want to be legally married already.
We're hoping for the best.

We have rebooked for Jan 2022. I think as long as we can have 50 people by then we will go ahead with that date. Funny this year we were totally against getting married if everyone couldn't be there (all 100), now we are just ready to have our day. I'm not even sure we would say no to a wedding with only 20 people.

My (now husband) and I got married October 10, 2020. We had 50 people including us (not including vendors) at chateau des charmes winery and it was magical. I wouldn’t change a single thing about my wedding. It was classy, and super intimate! I got a chance to have a meaningful conversation with every single guest.

We are getting married July 10, 2021 no matter what! Worst case scenario it’ll be just the two of us, our officiant and the two witnesses. Best case scenario, we will have 120 guests.


I am really hoping for 120 guests if we can still keep it safe but I have a number of plans for 100 guests, 50 guests and 10 guests.
Fingers crossed for all couples getting married next year!

We're getting married in September 2021. We're likely allowed to have 50 but even if not, as long as we're allowed 20 people we can go through with a ceremony. If we have to postpone the reception portion of the celebration, so be it.

We were supposed to be married in September 2020, but postponed to May 2021!
We have decided we are getting married that day regardless of if it is 5 people, 50 people or 150 people. Postponing once was hard enough! Lol, trying to stay hopeful that we can at least have half of our original guest list by May safely

We’re getting married October 23rd 2021, I’m quite hopeful but I have come up with 3 “covid guest lists” my original number including vendors is 132. I’ve made a 100, 75 and 50 person guest list. Reeeeally really hoping the 50 person list is not needed, it was sooo hard to cut that many people. I have a large Italian family lol so basically the 50 person list excluded all of my friends which is so sad to me. As I said I’m super hopeful, but no matter the restrictions we will still get married! If there are strict restrictions still in place in regards to indoor vs outdoor, we will likely switch our ceremony to outdoor to have more people attend, but we’ll see what happens, it’s still so far away!! 🤞🏼

We got married November 28, 2020 with just my husband's immediate family and two of our friends. My family couldn't make it due to covid restrictions but we live-streamed it for them. I'm so happy that we went ahead with our ceremony even though we had to postpone the reception portion to some point in the future.

We still did all of our couple photographs and we wore our original wedding outfits. We decorated our apartment to mimic what our head table would have looked like at our reception which made things feel more special (photo below). I made us a wedding cake and we ordered in a nice dinner. We also made a cheese/cracker appetizer plate for a mini cocktail hour. We video chatted with my family during the cocktail hour, had everyone together for the cake cutting, and then video chatted with my husband's family for after dinner drinks.

Although it wasn't what we planned (our original plan was for a 100 person wedding) we had a great day and it still felt very special - maybe even more than if things had gone to plan. I also feel like a weight has been lifted and I can breathe for the first time in 6 months. Constantly replanning our wedding was extremely stressful, particularly in the last few weeks because a lot of new restrictions came into effect here less than a month before our wedding and we ended up with our worst case scenario. Now I can relax and we're not going to plan our reception until it looks like restrictions will be lifted entirely.

(photo by Shannon Elmitt Photography)

We got married in September with 30 people (vendors included). Honestly, our day turned out so well and we are so glad we were able to do it. That being said, covid ramped up immediately after and our wedding would have had to be cancelled if it was 1 week later. I’m glad things worked out but there was a lot of stress and risk involved.

We got married in October with about 20 people (including our officiant and photographer). We had an outdoor ceremony and still got just as dressed up as we would have for our original plan.


We didn't have anyone invited officially, only our immediate family and the wedding party was there, mostly so we didn't hurt any feelings by selectively inviting people. We hadn't planned on having a wedding party but this gave us a loophole to have our closest friends there. My parents hosted a small reception at their home and we had cake and appetizers and lots of toasts. To me it was more special than a big wedding, we got to focus more on each other and the people we were celebrating with.
Next year we hope to have our reception with more family and friends and we are getting back into our wedding clothes and bringing the photographer back as well. We will have more of the traditional trappings like speeches and dances next year.

My fiance and I are still getting married August 7 2021. We've already postponed August 8 2020 and been engaged for 3 years on Dec 25th. We want to be married already! But at the same time we both don't want to have the ceremony and reception at two different times and not have most of our family and friends there with us. The only way that we're going to postpone for a second time is that if the cap for guests are still at 10.