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Newbie August 2020 Quebec

Gathering restrictions loosening?

Melanie, on June 16, 2020 at 10:58 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 9
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Hey ladies, I was originally set to say I do on August 1st in Quebec. My fiancé and I both are born and raised in Montreal but now live in Ab.


They are loosening restrictions in each respective province slowly but surely. Alberta is allowing gatherings of 50 indoor/100 outdoor so long as social distancing is followed. Whereas QC announced yesterday that gatherings of 50 can happen effective June 22nd. You must respect a 1.5 m of social distancing in QC not 2.5 like Ab.
I was over the moon when I heard this announcement, but my maid of honor is less than excited, my mother in law told me she MAY come. All of our family is in QC, along with the wedding party. The only people required to travel would be ourselves and my parents who are on board with the idea of a fall wedding this year.
Am I being ridiculous? I feel like if we wait and hold off another year, thats just as uncertain as this predicted second wave..
Our family is suggesting we do a skype wedding which is not an option for me lol im so sad about all of this. I do not see a point in wearing my wedding dress if its a small gathering, it really doesn’t seem realistic as its a ball gown and quite fancy.. I feel weird about wearing such a dress to a courthouse or a small backyard wedding, just seems overkill.
Not really sure what my question is but wondering if anyone shares similar sentiments? or what you’re doing instead of an out of province wedding? If we do it in AB my bridesmaids wouldn’t come.. I know I sound like a complete brideZilla apologies in advance!!

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Latest activity by Katherine, on June 20, 2020 at 19:54
  • Katherine
    Curious August 2021 Prince Edward Island
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    We are eloping a few days before our original date as it’s a package offered through the week and then having our large wedding next summer when it will be (hopefully) safe for everyone. I’m also saving my gown for next year and just wearing a white dress this year.
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  • Ashley
    VIP August 2020 Ontario
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    Look at it this way do you want all of your guests in a room where they cant get close to each other? do you want tables so far spread they cant talk to each other? it sucks but i think postponing would be the right decision. i rather wait a few more months to have my dream wedding then have to proceed on so many restrictions just so i can have my day. trust me i feel you i want my wedding so bad. everything has been done for mine since jan ive literally been waiting for my day when this covid all came along.

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  • Rayanne
    Master June 2022 Ontario
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    We have already decided that if we can't have the wedding we want we will postpone until we get it. We have been engaged forever and really nothing will change if we get married or wait. We still have more time to worry and stress though. I think that is the worst part. I'd rather know we are postponing than doing the waiting.
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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
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    You have to realize, Quebec has been hit the worst in the entire country. 65% of the entire country's deaths from covid happened in Quebec. If you thought whatever around you in Alberta was bad, Quebec has it much worse so you can't fault your family and friends for having concerns. I get that you want to have your special day, but they want to stay healthy and alive.

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    Beginner August 2020 Alberta
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    I am getting married August 8 in Alberta. We held on and were so excited when we heard about the 50 indoor/100 outdoor gathering restrictions!
    We were never going to postpone as we have been engaged for 2 years and together for 9, among other reasons.
    Of course we hope to accommodate more people to the evening celebration if the numbers increase again by August, but if not then we are just fine with the 50 people at our reception. We are still inviting 100 guests to our ceremony. This is about you and your fiancé, whatever you decide people will respect and ultimately it will be a great day because it’s your wedding! I hope your figure out what’s best for you two. Good luck!
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  • Veronica
    Super October 2021 Alberta
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    I feel your pain as well - not quite the same as planning an out of province wedding, but just all the uncertainty, not wanting to wait etc. I am hopeful regarding the gathering restrictions being lifted, it at least makes having weddings that size not against the law.

    But it certainly does not make COVID go away, even though we all wish it would Smiley sad So FH and I made peace with having our wedding this year meaning that there will be a bit of underlying stress regarding the virus, and we have to be ok that some of our guests may just not feel comfortable attending or are at risk to attend.

    I don't think there is any guarantee of a vaccine and next year being better at all. I think its a hopeful thought but there is no proof that 2021 is going to be COVID free. So we just decided that life has to go on, and we are hoping we can give our loved ones a day of celebration amidst the chaos. I think that postponing to next year buys all of us time to wait it though! So that does sound less stressful then right now every day being a game of what will the new normal be today etc.

    No right or wrong answer. And I totally agree that putting on the dress and all those details for a Zoom or Backyard wedding just doesn't seem as fun! If that is our only option or postponing, we will be postponing.
    Sorry we are all going through this!

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  • Amelia
    Master October 2020 New Brunswick
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    Our wedding is in October, we kept the ceremony in 2020 and pushed the reception to October 2021. We didn't want to try to party at a distance or not be able to hug our guests. Plus my fiance's family all need to travel and NB is being very strict about visitors.


    Ultimately it's up to you. As you've pointed out pushing the date does not guarantee that you'll have the day as planned next year either. You could do a smaller ceremony this year and save the party, you could push the whole thing, or you could go ahead and put on your ballgown regardless of who will be with you.
    You're not being ridiculous. We are all going through something unheard of and it's immensely stressful to plan a wedding without a pandemic. At the same time your family and friends in QC know better about what is going on there, and they are allowed to be cautious or worried so try not to be too hurt by them not knowing if they will be able to attend.
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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    The battle of province for the wedding vs. family issues.

    You two living in Alberta seems fair to have your wedding there to be easy and arranged easily to oversee everything being done and getting the dress shopping too.

    Your family and MOH living in Montreal with the lift of gathering restrictions also is a choice to have everyone in one place to celebrate and get everything you want without the skype as suggested. The travel for everyone may not be for most of your family if health safety is their concern.

    A list of pro and cons is something that will help to make the decision final knowing your happy with the outcome. Overall, this is your day and should be based on how and where you want it celebrating in style of your dreams.

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  • Kelsie
    Master July 2021 Ontario
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    I had the same sentiments as you - and trust me I wanted my July 2020 wedding!

    Ultimately, we decided to push a year and two months out - which was very hard to do, however, we know our guests will be safe and we will get to have the wedding we want versus the wedding COVID would have forced us to have if we did not postpone.

    It was also a positive because we can save more money, do some renos to our home, etc.

    I'm hopeful by next September this will have a vaccine and be distant memory.

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