Future In-laws and Parents

His parents met my mum and stepdad on several occasions prior to our wedding. Everyone seems to get along and we also all got together for some crafting of wedding things which was nice. I think it is nice that our families have a good relationship but we are all only together a few times a year but we as a couple visit each family often.

My in laws and parents have met but haven’t really hung out together either. I don’t find it too concerning since our families love both of us, but we are planning an engagement party to hopefully get everyone familiarized with each other

View quoted message We both find it an issue. I think he's just almost given up as he's an only child and has been dealing with this most of his life and theirs me whom it bugs like tomorrow because I was raised with the doors always open policy and the more the merrier. 10 minutes apart. We see each other's parents all the time.

My fiancé’s parents have met my dad but not my
mom (divorced parents) but even then they have only met him once. We are hoping to try and bring all our parents together between now and the wedding to get to know each other a little better but my fiancé’s parents normally decline any invites to come visit us. Instead they insist we go to them... stubborn parents are difficult

My fiancé and I both live at home, and are only ten minutes away from one another, but our parents never really initiated the opportunity to get together with one another to really get to know each other. We've been together 7.5 years and spend a lot of time at each other's houses and with family over the holidays. My parents are divorced, but I don't believe that had impacted them meeting. Moreso, I believe the parents were waiting on my fiancé and I to arrange something, or one of the other parents the initiate before themselves.

With that said, it was very important to all of them to meet and have a relationship; both of our families are traditional and they would like to see us all as a family unit and enjoying the planning and wedding together as one. So we setup and engagement dinner with just parents and our siblings at a restaurant and it was a wonderful time.

I thought I was the only one in this situation ... ! My FH doesnt think it's an issue that our parents never met but I kinda do.

View quoted message Same here, my parents and my partner’s parents live in different continents, so they had never met before. They have chatted through Skype/FaceTime a few times through us but they will meet for first time a few days before the wedding. I am perfectly fine with that.

Our parents have yet to meet. We wanted to go out for dinner with all 4 of them during the holidays, on neutral grounds (aka a restaurant), but with a hectic xmas schedule, it just didn’t work.
we’ll try again next time we’re in town to see them. If that doesn’t happen, they’ll just meet at the wedding! No biggie!

I have been with my FH for ten years and our parents never met until we got engaged. But we picked a restaurant where they both enjoyed and set up a dinner meeting/date there. It was great!

My parents and my fiancee's parents don't live in the same country. They will likely meet for the first time at the wedding, and rarely after that. I don't think it's a big deal.

View quoted message In our case we live in the same community, on the same highway not even 10 minutes apart. This coming year 2018 the suggestion was from my parents was to have Christmas dinner at our new house aka my FHs family home when he was a kid.

View quoted message They are a non tradition family. They sat at home that evening and did nothing as they do every Christmas Eve we invite them. My FH use to bring Christmas "cheer" aka beers to his friends on Christmas Eve and day so he would have something to do. But I like the suggestion of trying to set something up in a few weeks. We have tried before on my FHs birthday but than my parents didn't come because they felt rushed and that they would impose. It's quite the gong show.

My dad and stepmom live in Kentucky and my mom and stepdad near London, ON. So getting all our parents together is 100% impossible. My FHs parents have met my dad several times and my step mom once. But they have never met my mom and stepdad, I really don't think it's an issue. Maybe have your FH talk to his parents, maybe he can find out if there is an issue or if they are just busy.

We have arranged for fiance's mom to join my family at Christmas in 2020. It gave her time to let her family know she will not be joining them that year (my family lives 5 hours away so it will be a couple nights that she'll be gone).

Also, thinking about my parents and my sister-in-laws parents, they only get together with her mom when my brother and sister-in-law are there as well. They get along great, but they aren't friends.

My grandparents also would get together but only when my parents and us were with them.

Maybe around the holidays they have traditions that mean they can't get together with your family, but how about after the holidays? What happens if you try to host all of them together? Have you tried to invite them all out for dinner, or have them over one afternoon for coffee at your place? Maybe if you set something up for a few weeks from now they'll all be able to get together.