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Frustrations with moh

Robyn, on April 23, 2017 at 07:53 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 9

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Hi all, I know I have not been on here lately. Just too busy with life right now. I have had frustrations with my MOH lately. I only have her standing for me at the wedding (no bridesmaids). We choose a dress for her together back in September as we live in different provinces. She went to buy it and thought it was too expensive so asked if she could look for something similar at a different store which I was fine with. The dress came in and it is really not at all the colour I choose with her, but too late now. She then missed my bridal shower because she took a last minute trip to Cuba and her boss wouldn't giver her extra time off work. Now two months before the wedding informed me that she cannot get time off for the wedding because she took a new job and is flying in and out the day of the wedding. I am happy for her to be furthering her career but I feel left in the dark a bit. Am I wrong to be feeling frustrated about this?

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Latest activity by Simone, on April 25, 2017 at 10:21

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Simone · On April 25, 2017 at 10:21
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That's good to hear Robyn and I am glad that you both spoke to each other. Wishing you all the best for your wedding day!
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Robyn · On April 25, 2017 at 09:59
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Thanks for all the suggestions and support. She did say up front that she has a wedding that she is in but the employer ignored her request. I think I just have to be happy that she is coming at all. We are 50 days away from the wedding so it is too late to change things and to have another person stand for me.
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Caitlin · On April 24, 2017 at 11:46
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She should have let her employer know she needed a certain day off for the wedding. Most employers are okay if they know before hiring. I would definitely be frustrated. And have a long talk with her about her responsibilities as a maid of honor, and if she cant be there for you (planes get delayed, theres a chance she wouldnt make it in time at all), then not to bother. Its not fair to you!
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Bethany · On April 24, 2017 at 10:18
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My moh said didn't know if she could even come "in case" she gets a job. So I told her not to come at all and haven't talked to her since. I said it nicely so she didn't know I was mad but neither one of us have made an effort to reach out to each other. I was frustrated so yes you have a right to be frustrated. I don't know what her deal was/is but it shows that our friendship drifted apart more than I thought it had over the years. What are you going to do about it? Let it go and be happy she's coming at all or talk it out?
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Zoë · On April 24, 2017 at 05:51
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Hi Robyn!

Oh I understand you are feeling this way. You should talk with her and tell her what you really feel.

Try not to think about it too much! This time you should enjoy everything. Planning a wedding should be fun.

To set your mind off, this week I made a game where you can win a gift. I think you will like it.

Your gift is on its way!

How is the planning going so far? Did you already find a dress?

xx
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Simone · On April 23, 2017 at 15:08
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Hi Robyn,
You have every right to be fustrated and this is not fair to you and for you to go through this. Have you spoken to her about this?
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Rekramer · On April 23, 2017 at 10:56
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That's really frustrating. It can certainly be hard when you feel like she isn't making a priority of your plans (which is what it seems like). Perhaps she doesn't understand how important these issues are, or she feels like you will simply be understanding? If she isn't meeting your needs, I think you have to be honest about it and see if you can find a place that works for both of you.
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Lisa · On April 23, 2017 at 10:46
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Wow that's a tough situation but at least she's being upfront and honest and not keeping all these changes from you. Hopefully you both can work it out.
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Erin · On April 23, 2017 at 09:32
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I can understand your feelings. I would be happy for my friend too but frustrated with certain outcomes. I know it's not ideal that she is flying in and out but at least she is still coming to your wedding. Maybe you can speak with her and let her know how you feel? I hope she understands and I hope you don't encounter any more frustration.
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