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I agree with Clarissa! Hopefully they tone it down if/when you express how you feel.

It's weird how so many little things that you would normally just shrug off can cause some serious insecurities when planning your own wedding. I agree to just be honest and when they get a little carried away and snarky just tell them that you would really appreciate if they would be more mindful of their comments. I hate that it's true that sometimes women just don't even realize they're doing it and it's worse with groups.

And keep in mind that they're getting along which is an amazing plus because not every bridal party is like that.

View quoted message I also only have 2 and couldn't choose which to be MOH but went the other way of just having both as bridesmaids and they can split things how they want (1 is signing as witness the other is giving the speech).

Nothing wrong with having two! Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time dealing with them though. I decided to have two MOH's because I couldn't choose between my sister and my best friend. They are both so important to me and that meant I didn't want either of them to feel left out and like they got second string being a bridesmaid instead. Since there are only two of them (I'm not having bridesmaids) it seemed like the logical choice for us.

Yeah, I thought about having two as well, but it’s not really traditional and my mom said it would be weird so I just chose one and am happy with my decision.

I totally get it, this has happened to me as well except I saw it happen slowly over a couple years and then all of a sudden they would even post on Instagram about how they are THE BESTEST OF FRIENDS - meanwhile I wasn't even invited to that outing! It was a real punch to the ego that I was pretty much replaced. But you know what? I found better friends and was fine. (Also side note - my mom doesn't even talk to anyone in her bridal party anymore - married to my dad for 27 years now)

One of my biggest insecurities is feeling left out, so I hear where you're coming from! When I do feel left out, I take a step back, because sometimes my emotions get the best of me and I overthink things. I suggest taking a bit of break. Do something for yourself. Don't look at the group chat for a few days and see how you feel about it in a few days.

I wish I could delete this rant now haha

I guess things are getting overwhelming so small things tend to bug me lol but you are right it’s better to have them get along then to hate each other.

I don’t have much advice. But honestly I’m glad we have bridal party except our kids. Too much drama can happen.

Honestly just try and relax. Don’t let past experience colour how you see this. If the jokes bugged you let them know. But don’t point fingers or go on about it. Just tell them you know you’re probably extra emotional because of the wedding and all the stress, and that little things seem to bother you at times (I’m not saying you are this way, this will just help the conversation go smoothly). And just ask that they not pick on you cause you can’t handle it right now. I’m sure they didn’t mean anything by it.

Then just enjoy the whole process. Don’t worry about who likes who best. It doesn’t matter. They are both your friends. Be happy they like each other, it would be way more stressful if they hated each other.