Flip Out Or Forget It? - Your wedding party member doesn't show up to a pre-wedding event

Forget it. Maybe a little disappointed as a couple other people have said. One of my bridal party live an hour away and the other is in Ontario (I'm in NS). So many things could happen that would be out of their control to come - weather, car/travel delays, etc - I'm keeping it always as a possibility in my mind.

I wouldn't flip out...though I may be a little sad- but also understanding if that makes sense?
one lives out of province, one just had twins 2 months ago, and two can be busy at times.

I went bridesmaid dress shopping alone because none of them could make it (I got one that can be styled 15 different ways and only comes in 2 sizes so it was doable) would have been nice to have at least one of them there. Though all but the out of province one made it to the day I went wedding dress shopping so that was nice!

Though I do hope everyone can make it to the joint bachelor/bachelorette party...the bridesmaids have never met the groomsmen so it would be nice for them to meet before the rehersal

Forget it! Not all the wedding party showed up for the Welcome Dinner and that's ok since 2 of our friends aren't fond of coming out to a large gathering. They showed up for the rehearsal at least, that was the most important thing.

My wedding party hasn't all met and we will only have one event with all of them so I would be upset.

I'd forget it. One of my sisters (BM) lives across the country and my FH's sister (BM) is dealing with some personal issues - I'm not asking them to drop everything in their lives for pre-wedding shindigs. I'd love it if they could make it but as long as my other sister (MOH) is there and they show up for the actual wedding, I'm fine with rolling with the punches.

Depends on the person and the event. Some of my girls live far away and there are a lot of us so it's hard to get us all in one place anyway. My girls are SO good and I know that if any of them couldn't make it to something there would definitely be a good reason for it.

I probably wouldn't care that much if it were one of the best men. If my MOH (sister) missed something, I'd probably be unhappy.

Depends. If they just bail without saying something to me then I’d flip it. But if they have a legit reason and say something then whatever

Forget it! People have lives, if brides get too demanding it just causes way too much tension!

I would be a little upset if anyone missed the Bachelorette party because that is planned and booked! But even if someone can't come to the bridal shower it is what it is! They will be missed but the only date that is 100% absolute is my wedding day haha!

Forget it, I have a really close friendship with my MOH and I know 100% she'd be there if she could.

If its last second events I would understand, if we have plans months ahead of time I would flip out unless its a family emergency. Otherwise there is no reason you can't get time off to be there and you made the commitment

A few didn’t but they had good reasons and let us know. We just sent them an email with what they needed to know

I mean, it depends - If they didn't tell you they weren't able to attend and just flaked : Flip out. If they told you they couldn't make it : Forget it.

I've had to forget it... My FMIL and one of my bridesmaids both couldn't make it to my bachelorette. It was sad, but honestly it didn't make or break it. My best friend actually has to miss the wedding due to going to school in England... so that's the real heartbreaker

Forget it. I'm sure it would be for a good reason

I would forget it since we all live in different parts of the province - it's hard for everyone to get the same days off work/arrange travel. That being said, if they said they would make it but then last minute say they couldn't get away then I would flip!

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Same thing happened to me! One of my "bridesmaids" didn't show up to my engagement party because she has kids and didn't feel like arranging childcare (or just leaving her boyfriend who is their dad at home with them). When she had like 2.5 months notice of the date of the party. Not two weeks after that we had a giant blow up about it and we have not spoken since. Not facebook friends or anything either.

I honestly would flip out. I chose my wedding party because I think that they will have my back and be there for me. It would really upset me if one of the ONLY things I require them to do they cannot do.

Forget it, unless it's a repeated thing. I'd rather someone not be in my bridal party if they don't want to be involved, rather than making excuses to get out of things.

It depends - is it one event they missed, or all of them? Do they have a valid reason? Did they let me know?

Forget it. Again, people have lives, and I wouldn’t expect for anyone to change theirs because I’m getting married. I’m passive though. Things happen

If they’ve let me know they won’t be able to come, no big deal, but if they stand me up i’ll flip. this actually happened with our engagement party and it’s ended the friendship- she never showed up and i haven’t heard from her since

I think I would be in the middle. It would depend who it is, and what the reason is for missing it.

I don't think I would completely flip out, but I would for sure no be happy

I don't have a wedding party so it won't be an issue, though I'd be a little sad if someone I'm close to couldn't make it to something like my bridal shower as I'd give them notice months ahead.

I know this is going to happen with the groomsmen, well one of them. So I've prepared myself and I hope I don't flip out, but I'm already not a huge fan of him so we'll see ool

It depends on the reason for missing it. If you have a seriously case of the flu and you let me know and you can’t make an event then that’s fine. If you’re just late for everything and show up as the rehearsal is ending then that’s not fine and I’d flip out.

My sister and FHs brother will be our wedding party for this reason. It depends on the reason, if someone is really sick that’s understandable. I wouldn’t flip out unless someone just had no care to show up

And it’s for Tunis very reason that we chose not to have a wedding party.

I’m not interested in being disappointed by people, so if I don’t ask you to do anything you can’t get to me.

But...if I did, I’d likely flip out. Don’t agree to something if you can’t hold up your end of the deal.

This is where it all depends!! Did they just not show? Or did they say they couldn't? Did they have an valid excuse??? Or did they just not want to come??

Either way I would talk about it but only flip out if I didn't think their reason was reason enough.