Final Warning for late Rsvp's

I gotta agree with Hank on this one - you reached out multiple times already and still no answer? It’s a no, I would not be wasting any more energy this close leading up to the wedding.

The fact that you reached out multiple times and they didn't answer within your deadline would make me consider them a NO at this point. Some people like to feel extra special by pulling a stunt like this and personally, I have no need to spend energy on people who don't respect my time.

I would send a group note/email to everyone, whether they RSVP'd or not:

Thank you to everyone who has RSVPd to our wedding, we are so excited to spend our special day with you! For those who are unable to attend or did not return an RSVP, we hope we can celebrate with you soon.

Or something like that.

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I think that's a great way of putting it! Unfortunately...most people need a deadline.

I have a Facebook group put together with all of our wedding guests/group chat. Our RSVPs are due next week. I just put in the group that if we haven't heard from you by Feb 1, we will consider you not to be attending and know you will be there in spirit! Some still haven't responded, so it is what it is! Don't get too stressed out about it

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Great reply Felicia! Keep that in mind when my time comes

Give them a call, or if you know someone who has direct contact with them you can ask them.

Don't be shy and don't worry about being pushy.

Just say as our RSVP deadline is up, we've noticed you haven't sent yours in, should we be expecting you or you have prior engagements, and you are unable to attend. Please let us know by 6pm today. Lookign forward to hearing from you. If they do not respond just mark them off.

Calling is definitely more direct. You need answers and they may have forgotten or are dragging their heels in getting back to you. If you’re worried about being nice, you can say things more along the lines of “I didn’t want to exclude you even though our RSVP deadline is passed. We’re finalizing numbers that we have to give a just wanted to know if you plan on attending so we can have you accounted for in our plans”.
Doesn’t have to be exactly that but something similar so they understand the urgency but feel like you’re being considerate of them vs coming off as pushy.


Hope that helps!

I would physically call them and talk to them

If you're numbers deadline is due, maybe it's time to make a call?? if you haven't already done so.