Hi everyone! This is more of a rant post rather than looking for advice, but I feel like there must be other people in here experiencing similar things to me and thought this might help others feel not so alone.
My partner and I got engaged last December and were planning for a November 28, 2020 wedding (the anniversary of our first date). We were on the ball early and had essentially planned everything prior to covid other than a few more minor details. Since the start of the pandemic we have had to replan our wedding multiple times. However we have always said since the very start that no matter what happens we will get married on our original wedding date (obvious exception to this would be if one of us or our officiant got sick and couldn't attend the ceremony).
We tried to postpone our reception back in the summer but found out that our venue is being demolished this December. We may or may not get our deposit back. We also had our caterer pull out as they will not cater weddings smaller than 40 people. Keep in mind the limit on gatherings in BC was 50 (yesterday they reduced it even more in private residences).
We managed to find a new venue and had replanned everything to have a small ceremony and takeout dinner with just our immediate families. Unfortunately that venue also fell through about a month ago. We then decided to do an outdoor ceremony... in late November... in rainy Vancouver lol... and have a dinner at our apartment with our immediate families. We replanned everything AGAIN, booked new rentals, had covid protocols in place, and were about to give our families all of the details. Cases started skyrocketing in BC (still thankfully not as bad as other places in the country) and yesterday we found out we can only have 6 people in our apartment in addition to ourselves. Our immediate families consist of 10 additional people (2 of which are babies).
We basically came up with two options for our families. Option 1: We elope, stream the ceremony, and video conference everyone in for a virtual dinner. Or option 2: We have everyone in person for an outdoor ceremony, we have dinner with my family that night because they don't live here and have to go home, and 2 weeks later after we have quarantined again, we have dinner with my partner's family to celebrate. Obviously option 2 isn't ideal splitting up the celebrations, but logistically it's the only way this is going to work.
My family has been really supportive the entire time and understand they may not be able to come to the wedding. That being said, they are also totally willing to quarantine themselves for 2 weeks and drive all the way here from Alberta to be at our wedding. We'd really like them to come and it might also be a long time before we see them again since we'll be spending the holidays here. My partner's family members who all live in the area are unfortunately not being as supportive and keep pushing us to postpone our wedding until the spring. We also just found out that they feel left out and upset that they haven't been able to do anything for the wedding... we have also obviously not been able to do anything for the wedding except stress out due to covid so I'm not totally clear on what we're supposed to do about this.
This has obviously made myself and my partner upset on top of us already being so upset with changing our wedding plans so many times. We have absolutely no interest in postponing our ceremony because our number one priority is just to get married. We've told our families this several times. There's also no guarantee that things will be any different in the spring and things could just continue to get worse - there's just no knowing.
I guess I just already feel very defeated by covid ruining every single plan we've had multiple times and I am so tired of replanning this wedding over and over and over again. Not to mention we're a month away from the wedding at this point and I would be devastated to have to postpone after all we've been through this year. My partner feels the same way as me. At this point we just really want to get married and don't care so much about the other stuff.
Is there anyone here that can relate or has a similar story? I'd love to hear from you so we can support one another. 
