Feeding the officiant

We'll be offering our officiant to attend dinner, but I don't see him staying. Neither FH or I are affiliated with any religion, so we have no relationship with the man but we know it's polite to at least offer. And I totally get what Megan is saying, and thought the price for my officiant seemed way too reasonable for what they do, so the least we can do is extend the invite and I fully intend to give a tip also, or a small gift

It also depends. Is your officiant one you booked or do they come with the venue? Either way, you’re best to ask. I’m feeding mine but she’s our best friend xD

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Ashley ...Good point

Maybe check with your officiant if its the norm to invite them to the reception afterwards?

Honestly, every wedding I've been to, the officiant has not stayed for the reception unless the couple had a friend marry them.

I have SUCH strong feelings on this!! My mother is a wedding officiant. She does tons of weddings, and is invited for dinner for about 50% of them. Here is the most important thing to remember:

YOUR OFFICIANT IS THE ONLY REQUIRED PART OF THE WEDDING. YOU CAN'T BE MARRIED WITHOUT THEM!

Think about it! You can get married without flowers, a dress, a coordinator, a photographer, but without that officiant to sign your documents you won't be married. Please consider giving a plate to your officiant. They are very underpaid for what they do, considering your entire marriage rests on their shoulders! It's becoming more new age not to invite the officiant, but I urge everyone to really think hard about it!!

Im not feeding mine lol!! hes at the church and our hall is elsewhere. our ceremony is only 45 mins so i cant see why i would feed him

Our officiant made it pretty clear that she had other engagements after our wedding. So she didn't stay long after the ceremony. In all the weddings I've been to or been part of, the officiant didn't stay for any of them.
If you're unsure, I'd just ask them what they usually do after a ceremony!

We didn’t invite our officiant to our reception mainly because they were held at 2 different locations. If we had them at the same location, I would have probably extended an invitation to them to be polite.

Our priest is also a family friend so he is definitely staying and yes he will get a meal along with our dj, photographer, videographer and our wedding planner

We asked our officiant if she wanted to stay, but she also works part time as a nurse, so she had to leave soon after!

Never hurts to ask, they definitely appreciate it, even if they end up declining.

You can offer the Officiant to stay for the reception following the wedding. He or She would accept or decline based on their schedule.

Ours had to do Officiate a wedding right after ours the same day.

Apparently, it is tradition to invite the priest to the reception when doing a church ceremony. So, we'll probably invite him but I highly doubt he will come.

For us we simply mentioned the type of food we will be having and asked if he would be staying for supper since if immediately followed the ceremony. We just asked via weddingwire messages and in the end he thanked us for the offer but he had to drive back to the city for the Elton John concert

Worth offering! If he/she says yes I would extend a seat for their S/O and they would be placed at a vendor table.