Fear of public speaking

I have zero tips. I'm honestly just as afraid. Thankfully my friends and family expect me to be an awkward mess haha.

It was in Oshawa at the Navy club. And ya hopefully drinking will calm me down!

Unrelated to this post -- Chelsea, where did you guys have your Jack & Jill ?? (if I remember correctly, you're also in my area)
I do not like being put on the spot.. I also go so red, get shakey - I almost break out into hives - it's terrible. Hoping a couple drinks will settle my nerves

My fiance is so nervous to even be in front of people! He's going to be nervous for the vows. We decided to keep the ceremony short for this reason.

Thank you soo much for all your help I got some really good ideas from you all! I really need to do this so I will probably go for it without the mic, and your all right about my man making me feel safe.. but if it comes up to me not doing it I will say them before or after (kind of nice because it would be private.) Helps to know that this really is an issue for a lot of people. Although I hope the best for all of you knowing soo much of how it feels!

Thank you all again!!

I also do not like public speaking but I have come to realize that my FH won't care if I get a little flustered or emotional and say umm a few times. He will only care about what my words mean and that has helped me a lot. I also think that your voice being quiet isn't a bad thing. No one other than your FH needs to really hear your vows. My FH's brother-in-law spoke his vows so quietly that to this day no one other than FH's sister knows what he said. I also don't think people will even notice or care, they will chalk it up to all the nerves and emotions of the day.

I'm the same way! This is actually my biggest worry right now. When I speak in front of people I get so nervous and stressed that my skin goes all bright red and splotchy I'm so afraid our pictures are gonna come out and I'm going to look like a tomato!

My FH has an incredible calming effect on me however, and I'm hoping that in the moment, I'll just be looking at him and everything else will fade away. In the end it's him who I'm speaking to, not the crowd of people watching, so I'm hoping this will help

Best of luck!

I am horrible with public speaking. My face goes red, my hands shake so bad, you can see my heart beating right out of my chest basically, I say uhmmmm constantly, it isn't good. I did just have a jack and jill this past weekend and I had to say thank you to everyone for coming out and supporting us and I just kept it short and sweet and it wasn't that bad because it was friends and family. One idea I have would be to take away the microphone like Jessica mentioned and then you guys can do your vows quietly and it would be more intimate between the two of you.

I totally get it! I have really bad social anxiety and general anxiety so I'm really scared for the wedding. My FH doesn't have anxiety but he is very shy and so we have decided to write our vows and we will be reading them to each other in private before the ceremony Or after (haven't decided yet).As for not being heard, if you have a DJ at your wedding they may be able to provide you with a lapel microphone so people will be sure to hear. That's what we are doing. Or maybe even the venue has a sound system and microphone you can use. And like you said, it's all family and friends, everyone will be so happy for you and cheering you on! I know it's easier said than done, but tale deep breaths and when you're up there just keep your eyes on your husband and I'm sure that will help relax you knowing he's by your side through it all!

My FH has this problem, he blanks in front of people and is very nervous of his vows... I was considering taking the mic away for his vows, so only I can hear