Faux Pas or Nah: Planning your own bachelor/ette party?

I don't see anything wrong with this if you know what you want

I don't have a bridal party so I will be helping to plan mine; however, bridal party or not, as long as the bride isn't being demanding and unrealistic, I think her helping will take some stress off whoever initiated it.

No shame in planning your own! I really wanted a weekend away at blue mountain with my girls so I booked the room for the weekend I wanted (confirmed with them of course). I am not planning anything else leaving the rest to them now!

Hey, some people's friends suck and drop the planning ball. No shame in planning your own hurrah.

I don't think there is any harm in having an "input" for your party, but I would let your MOH take the lead as they should be one who knows you best.

I am letting my MOH plan it all from beginning to end, if she asks for suggestions I will input otherwise its all her

Nope. Some people need direction (my MOH for example keeps asking me what I want), so I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

The Best Man is responsible for putting the bachelor party along with the guys if chosen to get the help. The groom just enjoys his evening and drinks bought.

Nah, as much as my sisters (and MOHs) have it covered, they occasionally want input to make sure they're not on the wrong track with anything! I'm more then happy to help!

I think it's fine, if your MOH doesn't step up. I planned my FH's bachelor vacation, too, because his best man is working two jobs and run ragged.

I planned all the big stuff myself for the bachelorette! The when and where was all me, but i’m letting my MOH do the rest

Nah. It's 100% fine to plan your own, if you don't have anyone with additional time to plan for you and you can then go for it!

My MOH has taken over the bachelorette party. I know where in Alberta it will be, but that is it! I would love to be part of the planning but I'm already planning the wedding, I am thankful for how amazing my bridal party is.

I think it's fine to help plan it out! Especially if what you really want is way different then what the bridal party envisions. (Think spa day vs all night stripper rager). So little nudges on ideas. I had my bridal party ask me what I want for it, I gave them the jist and now they are sorting out things (wedding is still 1.5 year away so wouldn't be till next year anyway). However I don't think that it is ok to DEMAND anything over the top etc.

I dont think it's a faux pas... especially if you want something specific.

I would prefer to plan as my wedding party doesn't get along or one person is stuck doing it all.

I would probably prefer to plan my own! I don’t want anything over the top/uncomfortable.. my fiancée will probably have a joint one anyway. A weekend away with our closest friends.

I don't think it's a faux pas.
I mean, great if you have a crew that can help you, but if you don't or don't feel comfortable having other people do that...then there's nothing wrong with planning it yourself.

I think it is a faux pas to plan your own. That doesn't mean you can't have input. You can give your wedding party ideas, help pick a date and guest list, say you prefer x over y or whatever, but you shouldn't be planning it all yourself and throwing your own party. If no one steps up to organize and plan for you then you just don't one

I had a large hand in planning my bachelorette party but my bridal party all brainstormed together with ideas they liked and could afford and I decided from their list. Then we discussed different locations cause we did a destination bachelorette!

I want to plan my own haha but for my bridal shower my mother and sister are putting it together for me and said I couldn't help because I need a break from planning haha I don't mind

I wouldn't mind it, I'm partly planning things since my bridal party is all over the place and it's just easier this way.

I don't think it's a faux pas to plan it yourself but I don't think you should have to! I feel like that's your bridal party's responsibility.

I want to be involved in my planning personally. I’ve seen what happens when other people plan it for you and it can be a disaster.

I think someone else should plan it just for your sanity. Planning a wedding is already hectic enough. I didn't and don't plan on having any type of engagement/bachelor/ette party.

Faux pas! Let someone else plan it. The wedding is yours. I think you can have input if you want, but let your friends plan it!

I’m one of those people that believe when people choose to get married, they shouldn’t expect things from others. I think it’s great to plan your own party and I also think it’s great to let others plan your party. It’s just a personal preference. We planned our own and paid for our own. I don’t think what we did was a faux pas. It’s what worked for us. I don’t think it’s a faux pas to hand it off to someone else providing they have the time and resources to do it.

I don't think the bride should have to plan her bachelorette.

That being said, my FH and I planned a joint bachelor/bachelorette night at a pub (and of course I got the flu that day so it wasn't as fun as I would have wanted it to be)

If I had opted to have a separate bachelorette party I would have wanted my bridesmaids to plan it

Nah, I know me best! I don't plan on full out planning my own, but I will be giving ideas which is basically the same thing. I wouldn't want to be stuck with a bachelorette party where we go see strippers and I'm in the corner hating my life... I'd much rather have a wine night in after an escape room!

Faux Pas! The way I look at it, I am planning a wedding. I should not have to plan my bachelorette too. You can give input, but ultimately it should be bridal party/family planning it.

Between my step mom and my sister, they are working out all the details. They have given me ideas of what they want to do, and I am 100% ok with whatever they choose. The only thing I told them was no strip club.