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Hank
Featured September 2021 Ontario

Fashion Rules

Hank, on February 3, 2021 at 17:22 Posted in Wedding fashion 0 25

How many of you are breaking "fashion rules" when it comes to your wedding clothes? I feel like some of these rules, for better or worst, are stuck with us (keep last button on suit jacket unbuttoned) but considering most fashion rules that people consider "timeless" were invented by a bunch of aristocrats whose customs and lifestyles are no longer relevant to many of us today, will you be keeping with those rules for tradition sake or breaking them?


Here are a few fashion rules I think of (some of which apply specifically to weddings)

-guests should not wear white, black, or bridal party colours

-matching formality by venue

-matching colours by season

-no tuxedos during the day before 6pm

-no watches with tuxedos

-no long hair for women over 40 (this is definitely stupid in my opinion)

-heels only at formal events

-no mixing black/navy or black/brown (I never understood this)

-match your leathers like shoes and belt, or bag if applicable

-match your metals like watch, jewellery and belt

-no socks with sandals or heels

-cleavage or legs, pick one


Any other rules you are aware of? Any in particular you'll (or expecting guests to) be breaking?

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Latest activity by Hank, on February 10, 2021 at 18:57
  • Hank
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    The engagement ring and wedding bands are usually the exception to the no mixing metals rule. Otherwise once you're married, you can only have one type of metal for the rest of your life. Or you'd have to get multiple wedding rings. Both of those options are ridiculous lol.

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  • Alexis
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    Lol reading this we are breaking most rules 馃ぃ
    One thing that I鈥檓 breaking is the no mixed metals. My wedding rings are yellow gold. My wedding dress crystals are being held in silver and so I鈥檓 matching any jewelry to my dress other than my rings
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  • Hank
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    Are they triplets? Bridesgrannies? lol

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  • Rayanne
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    ...so hopefully this doesn't happen with all the grandmas....it is a nice dress though and suits them allFashion Rules 1

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  • Hank
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    Technically, you're following a rule rather than breaking it Re bridesmaids not matching. Even though most weddings see matching brides and groomsmen, it's actually a fashion rule to not overly match.

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  • Michelle
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    That鈥檚 fair - I think it鈥檚 more that she read it online somewhere and now feels the need to make sure they don鈥檛 match or dress similarly.


    Our bridal party isn鈥檛 matching, I just told them to wear anything in a shade of our theme colour - I don鈥檛 know if that breaks a rule, but I鈥檇 rather they wear something they like and not a dress we make them wear, especially if it鈥檚 out of their budget. And I can鈥檛 wear heels ahaha, so flats for the bride!
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  • Hank
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    I mean, I get why your mom wouldn't want to clash or match your future mother in law. It's not a big deal but some people don't want to be compared to someone else (ie "which mom wore the blue better?"). Not so much a rule than a preference.

    Are the two of you, or anyone in your bridal party, breaking any of the rules for whatever reason?

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  • Michelle
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    Fashion rules are too much. My fiance's mom told me that my mom had to choose her outfit first, and that our mom's couldn't be wearing the same colour? I had to tell her to buy whatever she wanted and to stop worrying so much.

    My partner and I could not care less about what anyone else wears. As long as someone else doesn't show up in a literal wedding dress, I'm fine Smiley xd

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  • Rayanne
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    Hahaha ya for sure. FH and I will be black tie. I've told my MOH she can wear whatever she wants as long as the colour is right. Knowing her she will also be black tie appropriate. The BM said he is fine to rent a tux or wear whatever the FH wants him too. Since it is just the two of them they will have quite a bit of freedom.
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  • Hank
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    Agreed. Our bridal party bought silver clothes to match our original winter date. We're not making them spend more money by buying another set of clothes to match a late summer/early fall setting.

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  • Hank
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    I'm more asking about the couple and the bridal party when it comes to breaking rules, since their clothes are something we have control over. For example, I know a lot of people will say screw tradition and wear a white bow tie with a regular tuxedo jacket ala Obama's inauguration but a lot of purists will balk at it.

    But I'm with you, unless someone shows up in a completely inappropriate outfit (and I mean something super offensive), I wouldn't say anything either. I guess I'd be disappointed at the lack of respect they have for the occasion but I wouldn't confront them about it. Everyone at the party will see it for what it is and are probably internally judging them as equally as we are lol.

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  • Hank
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    We're letting our bridesmaids choose their own style of dresses too. I think the whole trend of everyone needing to match exact is a result of wedding industry meddling, particularly the rentals industry. I personally was never a fan of it, especially if people have different body types and levels of comfort. For example, if all our bridesmaids are wearing what my fiancee's MOH is wearing, one of them would be constantly spilling out of her top. Even if we're fine with that, it's above her threshold on how much skin she'd like to show.

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  • Hank
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    Especially if the wedding is an indoor formal one. At this point, it's not even about fashion faux pas anymore. It's just a lack of respect for the event and the hosts.

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    Technically by having anything outdoors, the level of formality drops and therefore lack of heels are fine (according to traditional rules). But hey, if someone wants to supe up their outdoor ceremony and wear heels, I don't think it's that big of a deal. Same goes if someone wants to wear flats at an indoor event, especially considering the sexist history behind the tradition of women in heels.

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  • Hank
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    I think the veil is as much of a "rule" as women having bare shoulders in a church. It's more about the religious restriction than a fashion one.

    I get if you have a preference for not mixing black and brown but I don't get why it's a rule. If I'm wearing chelsea boots with black jeans, it'll certainly be brown and not black leather lol.

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    My fiance and I are aren't doing colors of the season.

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  • Marg
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    We're definitely breaking matching colours by season!

    Deep red is a fall/winter colour, but I like it best so I don't really care that all the wedding inspo you see seems to insist that you can never use rich colours during the spring.

    I suspect we'll see a lot of "rule breaking" about seasons in the years to come as people postpone their weddings - like, who wants to not use their favourite colours just because they had to move to a different time of year?

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  • Kimberly
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    Also I鈥檓 not wearing heels. I don鈥檛 want to be standing at the ceremony thinking about how much my feet hurt. I鈥檒l be wearing keds.


    I also don鈥檛 think I鈥檒l be wearing a veil, I want a tule cape of some sort.
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  • Kimberly
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    I put this on my wedding website:


    Fashion Rules 2

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  • Amelia
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    We definitely broke the no black rule 馃枻
    My bridesmaids wore black and my mom wanted to coordinate with them as much as possible so she did too.
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  • Rayanne
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    I can't say I'd be playing fashion police at my wedding. I hope everyone can be comfortable. I really hope no one comes in a Hawaii shirt and shorts to our wedding but honestly if they did I wouldn't say anything. There is a chance FH and I would have a giggle about it after....
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  • Jennifer
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    I鈥檓 letting my bridesmaids pick whatever dresses they want as long as it鈥檚 within the colour palette of the flowers. I personally find it much more relaxed and brings out each bride鈥檚 individuality. Plus they can wear their dresses again and feel confident in what they鈥檙e wearing!


    I鈥檓 also wearing a draped cape veil instead of a head veil to give a more unique look.
    And I鈥檒l be changing into a lehenga for the dance portion to honour my fianc茅鈥檚 Thamil family. It鈥檒l be bright and fun!
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  • Christiana
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    These fashion "rules" are hilarious. I am definitely not one to to necessarily to subscribe to any fashion rules but if someone came to my wedding wearing socks and sandals I would laugh so hard.

    Overall I guess we kept to these rules, but not necessarily on purpose. As far as wedding fashion goes I tried to break out of the typical white wedding dress for sure. I didn't wear a veil, didn't wear a white dress (although my dress ended up a lot more white than I expected lol), and my dress was quite low cut. I also wore thermal leggings under my dress and had blundstones on for half of my pictures which I guess could be considered breaking fashion rules but it was cold out! Smiley xd

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  • Liberty
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    I definitely don't think guests should wear like all white. A bit of white is fine IMO. I could care less if they wear black or bridal party colors.
    I probably won't even be wearing heels for my wedding. Heels and outdoor ceremony are just a bad idea IMO. If I can find some nice comfortable wedges I may wear heels.
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    I鈥檓 not sure if it鈥檚 a rule, but I ditched the vail. I just didn鈥檛 want to wear a vail to be honest. Ps. I don鈥檛 like black and brown together! Sorry hahahah
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