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Melanie
Curious August 2022 Alberta

Family member wearing white

Melanie, on April 24, 2022 at 17:25 Posted in Wedding fashion 0 13
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I’m kind of stuck right now. My grandma wants to wear a white shirt with a beige cardigan to my wedding. I know traditionally the bride is the only one supposed to be wearing white, but she seems to be persistent on it. Is this ok or do I need to explain to her nicely she can’t wear any white?

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Latest activity by Carine, on May 10, 2022 at 11:11
  • Carine
    Frequent user September 2023 Ontario
    Carine ·
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    It's just a white shirt not a white dress, she is also your grandmother pick your battles. Just make an old lady happy.

    I feel like times are changing, I see a lot of bridal parties wearing white dresses now and look at Kate Middletons sister wore white.

    Remember it's your wedding day, maybe buy an outfit for her that would suit both your needs, Grandmothers can't refuse a gift from their granddaughters.

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  • Rayanne
    Featured June 2022 Ontario
    Rayanne ·
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    I mean as long as she doesn't show up in a wedding dress I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Lots of people wear a white dress that has flowers on it to weddings. Or a white shirt with a colourful skirt or pants. I think no one will confuse her with the bride. If it doesn't bother you I wouldn't say anything to make her change what she's comfortable in.
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  • Stacey
    Curious October 2022 Ontario
    Stacey ·
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    The way I look at it, if you're ok with it, then let her. You want her to feel comfortable.

    Don't worry about traditions. things have changed. We're not doing the garter toss, nor the bouquet toss. It's YOUR day you do what feels important to you Smiley heart

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  • Malyssa
    Featured October 2022 Alberta
    Malyssa ·
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    I agree with everyone here.

    I think most "traditions" are not being followed or new ones are be created. With more and more brides opting for colored bridal dresses, white is not the norm as much as it used to be.

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  • KELLY
    Featured October 2023 Ontario
    KELLY ·
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    Many traditions have fallen by the way side but if this is important to you then I would have a talk with her. As someone mentioned above, tell her that you had hoped she would wear an outfit that you have seen her in previously that really loved....

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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
    Hank ·
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    Sounds like you're okay with it so I would just let it be. And even if it is a tradition, it's still up to you whether you follow them or not. Brides didn't even start wearing white on their wedding until Queen Victoria did it in the mid-1800s and lots of brides today don't wear white.

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  • Melanie
    Curious August 2022 Alberta
    Melanie ·
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    Creating a fuss about it is definitely not my plan. If she wants to wear a white shirt I have absolutely no problem with it, I want her to feel as comfortable as possible. But I just wanted to post on here to look for advice since I know it’s traditional for just the bride to wear white. Smiley smile
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  • Jenny
    Frequent user September 2022 Ontario
    Jenny ·
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    I’d politely tell her that you’d rather her not wear something white, as is tradition. Give her a few colour suggestions or mention that you hoped she’d wear *outfit you’ve seen her in before*.
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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
    Hank ·
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    If it's very obvious that it's not a wedding dress, is it worth getting into a fuss with your grandmother over it?

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  • Alyx
    Featured September 2022 Alberta
    Alyx ·
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    I told all my immediate family they can wear whatever they want as long as it’s not white 😂 kind of jokingly but also serious lol
    If it does bother you just ask if she would reconsider wearing a different colour!
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  • N
    Curious June 2023 Ontario
    Nelly+Raquel ·
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    Both my mother and my future mother in law will be wearing white to our wedding.
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  • Amanda
    Featured August 2022 British Columbia
    Amanda ·
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    If it bothers you, I would have a talk with her.

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  • Carmel
    Featured December 2020 Ontario
    Carmel ·
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    As the bride, that's up to you. Are you okay with it? If yes then who cares. If not, then you need to explain it to her.
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