I’m kind of stuck right now. My grandma wants to wear a white shirt with a beige cardigan to my wedding. I know traditionally the bride is the only one supposed to be wearing white, but she seems to be persistent on it. Is this ok or do I need to explain to her nicely she can’t wear any white?
I mean as long as she doesn't show up in a wedding dress I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Lots of people wear a white dress that has flowers on it to weddings. Or a white shirt with a colourful skirt or pants. I think no one will confuse her with the bride. If it doesn't bother you I wouldn't say anything to make her change what she's comfortable in.
Many traditions have fallen by the way side but if this is important to you then I would have a talk with her. As someone mentioned above, tell her that you had hoped she would wear an outfit that you have seen her in previously that really loved....
Sounds like you're okay with it so I would just let it be. And even if it is a tradition, it's still up to you whether you follow them or not. Brides didn't even start wearing white on their wedding until Queen Victoria did it in the mid-1800s and lots of brides today don't wear white.
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Creating a fuss about it is definitely not my plan. If she wants to wear a white shirt I have absolutely no problem with it, I want her to feel as comfortable as possible. But I just wanted to post on here to look for advice since I know it’s traditional for just the bride to wear white.
If it's very obvious that it's not a wedding dress, is it worth getting into a fuss with your grandmother over it?
I told all my immediate family they can wear whatever they want as long as it’s not white 😂 kind of jokingly but also serious lol If it does bother you just ask if she would reconsider wearing a different colour!