Family member wearing white

It's just a white shirt not a white dress, she is also your grandmother pick your battles. Just make an old lady happy.

I feel like times are changing, I see a lot of bridal parties wearing white dresses now and look at Kate Middletons sister wore white.

Remember it's your wedding day, maybe buy an outfit for her that would suit both your needs, Grandmothers can't refuse a gift from their granddaughters.

I mean as long as she doesn't show up in a wedding dress I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Lots of people wear a white dress that has flowers on it to weddings. Or a white shirt with a colourful skirt or pants. I think no one will confuse her with the bride. If it doesn't bother you I wouldn't say anything to make her change what she's comfortable in.

The way I look at it, if you're ok with it, then let her. You want her to feel comfortable.

Don't worry about traditions. things have changed. We're not doing the garter toss, nor the bouquet toss. It's YOUR day you do what feels important to you

I agree with everyone here.

I think most "traditions" are not being followed or new ones are be created. With more and more brides opting for colored bridal dresses, white is not the norm as much as it used to be.

Many traditions have fallen by the way side but if this is important to you then I would have a talk with her. As someone mentioned above, tell her that you had hoped she would wear an outfit that you have seen her in previously that really loved....

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Sounds like you're okay with it so I would just let it be. And even if it is a tradition, it's still up to you whether you follow them or not. Brides didn't even start wearing white on their wedding until Queen Victoria did it in the mid-1800s and lots of brides today don't wear white.

View quoted message Creating a fuss about it is definitely not my plan. If she wants to wear a white shirt I have absolutely no problem with it, I want her to feel as comfortable as possible. But I just wanted to post on here to look for advice since I know it’s traditional for just the bride to wear white.

I’d politely tell her that you’d rather her not wear something white, as is tradition. Give her a few colour suggestions or mention that you hoped she’d wear *outfit you’ve seen her in before*.

If it's very obvious that it's not a wedding dress, is it worth getting into a fuss with your grandmother over it?

I told all my immediate family they can wear whatever they want as long as it’s not white 😂 kind of jokingly but also serious lol
If it does bother you just ask if she would reconsider wearing a different colour!

Both my mother and my future mother in law will be wearing white to our wedding.

If it bothers you, I would have a talk with her.

As the bride, that's up to you. Are you okay with it? If yes then who cares. If not, then you need to explain it to her.