Family and bridal party

Thank you, this really makes me feel a lot better.

Doesn't sound like she really wants to be in the wedding party if all she wants to do is drink at your wedding anyways. She'll get over it by the next weekend.

Hmmm yeah... That says a lot!

Ok thank you so much for everything.

See I would be saying NO, NO to all of it. It's your day, don't ever let someone try to take that from you. if don't like it, it's their problem. Never let someone else attitude effect how you want to do something.

Well she is 22 but very much immature, her daughters are my flower girls but she doesnt want to watch them cause she just wants to drink.

Erin made a good point! You don't want to do something that will end up making you bitter or even more annoyed, so it's probably best if she isn't in the wedding party at all. How old is your stepsister? Is she an adolescent or adult?

I think the best policy is to be honest. If you don't feel like having her involved then that is your choice as it is your wedding. People should respect that choice. I would say that you should leave out the part about not liking her though. If you really don't feel like that is the way to go, you could ask her to help seat guests and hand out programs. That way she will feel included but won't be in the thick of things.