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Curious May 2020 Alberta

Eloping backlash?

Kendell, on April 6, 2020 at 08:13 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 8

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Hello brides!

I am looking for some advice or previous experiences from people who have eloped.
My wedding is suppose to be May 30th in Banff. We only had 30 people to begin with but now with Alberta only allowing gatherings of 15 people we cant even have our small wedding. Banff and Canmore also arent allowing visitors at this time so we really only have the option of postponing to next year. The only issue is I dont want to wait another year to be married and neither does he. We talked about postponing our very small family reception to next year with our venue and still eloping this year on our date. We would do the real eloping thing with just the two of us and no one knowing till it's done.
My question is have any brides done this and had alot of negativity from family? I'm scared everyone will be very mad at us for doing this even though it's what we want to do. We still plan on having a family weekend next year and will do a vow renewal kind of thing but we would have been married for a year already.
Thoughts??

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Latest activity by Ashley, on April 9, 2020 at 16:39

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Ashley · On April 9, 2020 at 16:39
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No matter what youre family will be upset as they will want to enjoy your day with you guys. but you could sign papers and have a zoom going so people can watch and have the bigger reception when everything opens back up
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Hank · On April 6, 2020 at 22:18
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You could always elope in secret and then pretend the legit thing is happening for your family when the time for celebrations roll around.
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Msss · On April 6, 2020 at 14:09
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We have postponed our wedding events to 2021 but we have thought about getting married on our original date in August. I think we should just do it alone but my partner is worried about the backlash. At the end of the day it's our day and given the current circumstances I feel like everyone should be more understanding. The pandemic has really put things into perspective.
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Curious May 2020 Alberta
Kendell · On April 6, 2020 at 13:56
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Yea Ia the first kid to get married too and the only daughter. When we first got engaged we talked about eloping because my boyfriend is very private and doesnt want to be the center of attention and some people gave pretty negative reactions so now that they are invited and included I feel they will be upset we are taking it away?

It's hard with everyone's opinions even though they tell you it's your day and whatever you want to do.
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Master October 2020 New Brunswick
Amelia · On April 6, 2020 at 13:52
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I told my friends on FaceTime the other night and they were all very supportive. At this point it's still a backup plan, and we're being cautiously optimistic about the whole thing.

I'm a little nervous to tell mom. I'm the first kid to get married, so I'm hoping that still having the reception to throw/plan will make it a little easier. To me it just isn't fair to have my family here and not his. One of my fiance's grandmothers was very outspoken about us not eloping, so I hope she understands this situation a bit. Unfortunately her memory is slipping so she keeps thinking that the restrictions are over next week.
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Kendell · On April 6, 2020 at 13:47
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Are you nervous to tell your mom?

Most of our people have been fine when we said we might elope. My friends are upset and my mom looses it everytime. I'm trying to drop the word elope so that arent completly caught off guard. Everytime I bring it up to my mom she bursts into tears and cries and says I'm her only daughter and she wants to see me get married. I'm scared of having to explain myself for our choices.
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Beatriz · On April 6, 2020 at 13:35
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We did postponed our wedding until later this year, but if things don't work out by then we will be likely getting married at home. I would be crushed not to have my family there (different province) but I also want to start a family of my own, and I don't want to wait any longer. I think your loved ones would understand, whatever the reason
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Amelia · On April 6, 2020 at 13:29
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We are potentially doing the same thing for our wedding.

I haven't talked to either of our moms yet because I don't want to worry them until we need to. I'm expecting them to be upset. I think his parents will be more understanding because they're in the states and will likely be unable to travel, my mom might not see that it's only fair to his family to have no family there at all.
I'll be focusing on letting them know that we will be having the party, and vow renewal, and all the traditional trimmings on our anniversary so that everyone can make it. Fingers crossed they see the positives too!
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