Elopement drama

Im surprised immediate family isnt supporting your guys decision. but either way everyone is going to have their own opinion so forget them and do what you and your hubby want to do!!

Despite family views on eloping during covid19 can be stressful. The fact given that you have postponed the wedding to next year and they will be part of that celebration is fine and you get married as wanted this year. Its your decision to make upon the wedding. Celebrate twice as some couples are doing wearing the same dress again.

So stressful!! But I agree with others—you need to do what’s best for you and your fiancé. There will be plenty of time to celebrate with family and friends down the road! You’re still having a reception for goodness’ sake!


If I were you, I’d resist any temptation to confront your mom about her alleged bitterness over your decision to elope. She clearly didn’t feel it was worth it to tell you directly, which may mean she doesn’t want to stress you out unnecessarily? And was simply venting when she made those comments to others? Or perhaps her words were distorted in the “grapevine”.
Hang in there! Family dynamics are tricky for sure. And have a beautiful elopement!

I’m so sorry you’re going through all this. You would think covid would help people be sympathetic...
You need to do what is best for you; everyone else can stuff it. Regardless of what anyone else wants, if you want to elope, do it! I totally get the backstabbing mom drama, and since you plan on eloping in the next few weeks, I’d keep the planning between you and your FH and speak to her about it once the wedding is over (that way if she blows up, it won’t sour your elopement). Parents sometimes need to remember that they had their time, how you plan your day is not up to them and they need to get over themselves.

I feel this!! We were supposed to get married August 1 and pushed it until June 12 next year. We decided to do an elopement with our bridal party and parents in August still. Some people are never going to support your decision regardless what you do. But given the most current situation stop listening to people’s opinions. If someone’s upset about, let them be upset about it. Go do your elopement and if you want to have your wedding next year do it. Who says you only need to do this once. Ask them if they ever got married during a pandemic and how they handled it. They didn’t. So opinions are not needed at this time! All the best. Enjoy your day or days.

I am so sorry you are going through this, it is a very hard decision to make to elope and still get married this year. We did, and we do not feel like some of our closest friends/wedding party support this. But we are happy with it but it does seem to cause some tension with some but it is not about them. I imagine with it being your mom a bit harder, but we are just not saying anything more to our friends about this year and just talking about the future events and trying not to, like you said open up that can of worms...

I hope it gets easier and she understands.

Congratulations on getting legally married!

If she wasn't supportive of the alternative option you guys came up with to get married this year and celebrate next year then tough cookies. And she didn't even tell you she was upset herself which is just a slap in the face in my opinion.


We toyed with the idea of a completely private wedding because my fiance's parents can't enter the country (easily at least) and to me it wasn't fair to have mine and not his. His parents gave us their blessing to go ahead without them so my parents will be there, but I was pleasantly surprised about how well my mom took it when I mentioned my original elopement plans.
I'm so sorry that your family hasn't been supportive. Especially at this stressful time when you need them most.

Gotta love how some people feel they need to enforce how two other functioning adults, with their own minds and needs, and capable of making their own decisions, coming together in legal matrimony should go down.

It’s definitely some crazy times right now! We were in the same boat and were supposed to get married in May, we struggled with getting a license and once we found a local town still offering them we rolled with our luck and did a ceremony at home with our minister, witnesses, family from a distance and family joining via video chat a month before our supposed to have been wedding day, and have postponed our celebration to our now one year anniversary. While it most definitely was not our ideal situation, and I am sure that family has had their opinions (we haven’t heard anything yet, but sure someone was bound to not be happy with the choice we made), we made the decision that was right for us, and what made us happy. Ultimately just remember this is yours and your FH’s day, while it’s definitely difficult to hear others thoughts and negative opinions on the subject, just remember that this is your guys day and you’re doing what is best for you! Personally my thoughts were if anyone had anything to say to me regarding our choice and decision, I would just explain that we made the decision that seemed best to us, and we apologize if they feel that way, but we are looking forward to celebrating with them in the new year when it is hopefully safer to do so! Best of luck with everything and hope your day is wonderful! 😊