Dress regrets?

I just posted about this as I’m going through the same thing. My dress is beautiful but now that our wedding is pushed back to next year I’m changing my mind about how I want to look... very frustrating as I don’t think I have a choice at this point since no refund on my dress

Awww if you love it dont look at other dresses!! you should be 100% in love with your dress. but if you dont like it you can always sell it and buy a different one!

For me, it was a feeling in my heart of knowing it was the one. I had tried on I guess 4 dresses beforehand, and when I put my dress on, I just knew it it was it, even before I looked in the mirror. I felt it! And seeing myself, just sealed the deal. I think you could always keep looking and never quite find the "perfect dress", but if you find the one that feels perfect to you deep down when you're wearing it, that's the one.

I went to one shop and tried about 11 dresses but I always came back to one and I bought it the same day. Its very natural to feel like you might not like the dress you picked later down the road. I myself had wondered if I made the right choice after I came down from the excitement. I even looked at our dresses and said to myself maybe I should of gotten that one, but I go back to the moment I tried my dress on and how it made me feel and that reassures me everytime. It’s completely natural to have a change of heart but don’t let it overshadow your decision. Extended time can have you overthinking!

I went to only one dress appointment. My wedding dress was the first dress I tried on, I tried on about 4 others after. I knew I loved the dress but I while in the salon deciding I was getting caught up in the fact that this was only the first store I’d been too and there may be something better out there somewhere. The big issue was that the designer wasn’t making anyone of this dress, once the current stock was sold that was it so I would be taking a risk that the dress wouldn’t be there anymore if I later came back. I ended up buying the dress.


What helped me decided is answering the question of “what, if anything about this dress would I change to make it perfect?” And I realized there was nothing. Maybe ask yourself the same question, if there is nothing to change than keep it. If you’d change something then ask yourself if that change is a a deal breaker and if it could be added in alterations. Another tip I was told is that you won’t find a “better” dress if you stop looking. Focus on what you love about your dress and why you chose it and don’t go to any more salons or look in anymore bridal magazines. You can’t fall in love with another dress if you never look at one.
Between buying my dress and when it was ready for pick up I did start to question and have doubts, but when I tried my dress on again I was reminded of why I chose it and why I love it.

View quoted message Yes, I actually had to delete the other two photos of the dresses I tried on previously because I kept over analyzing everything! Haha - but yes when I look back and focus on why I chose that dress I’m happy with my decision

View quoted message Thank you for the reply! I feel better knowing I’m not the only one who felt this way! It’s a big day and I just want everything to be “perfect” but at the end of the day I think like you say, there is so many reasons I love it and if I focus on that I think I’ll remember why I chose

View quoted message Aww I feel better knowing I’m not the only one who had the AHA moment on the first few dresses! I ended up canceling all other appointments I had that day because it felt so right. I actually wore a ball gown to my graduation as well and this wedding dress I got isn’t a ball gown but now I’m kind of wishing it was hahah, oh how the mind works!

View quoted message Thanks for the reply! I have also thought about doing this dress for the elopement and then another one for next year, but first I think I’ll re-try it on when it arrives. I think I’m just overthinking everything and this point and hopefully when I try it on I remember why I chose it!

I fell in love with two dresses, one that was over budget and one that I could afford. I got the one I could afford and I will not lie I still think about the other one sometimes. I have toyed with the idea of wearing the dress I bought for our potential elopement and getting the other dress for our reception in 2021.


It helped me to try on the dress I purchased and to picture it in the venue. Seeing it again helped a lot.
When you can go to the dress store again I would ask to try on the dress you bought and see how it makes you feel. If you still think it isn't the one there might be a chance to cancel your order (assuming you don't have it yet) and get store credit to use towards another dress. If you need to sell it online you will probably lose money, but you could list it and see what happens.

I've seen/heard many women on here say that they had second thoughts. Some went on to try and sell their original dress, some made some alterations to perfect it, and then some said HEY, this is your dress - you chose it for a reason!! You could be any of those option, there is no right one.

I can't even remember if it was the 3rd or 4th dress that I tried on that I chose - but trust me when I say I had that same feeling of "did I pick a dress too soon?". I only went to one appointment/store, and then as much as I did tear up and have that "I get to marry my best friend in this dress" moment... It was a ballgown!! I had a ballgown for my HS graduation back in summer 2015! That was the one kind that I said I didn't want because it was too similar to what I wore less than 5 years ago!! But I just honestly - pushed it to the back of my brain and insisted that I chose it because it made me feel like a bride. (I know, easier said than done, but it's what I did.)

Omg this was totally me! I actually ended up buying a dress and I ended up changing it to another one in 3 days cause I just felt it in the pit of my stomach that it wasn’t “the one” so then I went back to the original dress I always loved and bought that one! Even then I still had doubts! Now I have learned to love my dress. It may not be “perfect” as there a few things I would change about it if I could, but I try to look at what I love about it.
So don’t worry I feel like everyone has some form of doubt, it’s normal.
I too postponed my June 2020 wedding to September 2021 so now I have another 17 months to look at the positives of my dress and learn to love it again!
Regardless, you will look gorgeous in your dress. And I know you will feel beautiful on your special day. Sending love.

I think it’s normal to look back on other photos and think, hmmm did I make the right decision? I’m sure the other dresses you tried on were also lovely. But, try to focus on what you LOVE about your dress and why you picked it in the first place.