Dress Dilemma..

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Thank you Ashley! I booked an appointment for next Friday. I hope that it is just in my head and it will disappear once I am back in it!

Honestly i think your dress is beautiful!!!!! i would go back to the alternations shop and ask them to try it on again. see how you feel but to me this dress looks REALLY nice

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Exactly! If I had to plan my wedding again say in ten years, I would still dread shopping for the dress! LOL! I will definitely keep you posted, you have all been a great help!

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LOL 😂 so true!!!!

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Yes exactly! I wanted to get it done in one day as most of my bridal party had to travel in for this day and it was going to be difficult to organize another one, but man by the end of 3 stores and 20+ dresses I was just so overwhelmed. I would never want to do that again!

Keep us posted when you go to try it on again

View quoted message I’m sure that’s all you will need ♥️ Come on now all of those shows always jack the bride up to seal the deal.

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Thanks Tori! It better fit! I have been busting my butt working out making sure it will lol! You are right though I should try it on again and then picture the day as it will unfold and see myself in it. Hopefully that will give me my answer either way!

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Thank you Sarah. Yes! I think that is the best thing to do, go and try it on again. I like that suggestion of doing something with my hair and putting on some makeup. I tried a veil and it’s not for me but I plan on getting a hair comb instead. Seeing it all together could definitely help!

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Thanks Veronica! I agree there is way too much pressure to have the full on “bridal experience.” Dress shopping is exhausting! By the time I reached the last store, where I narrowed it down to two the one I picked and another one, I had already tried on 20+ dresses at four different stores! I think going back and getting into it again will help sway me either way!

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Thank you Amelia!

I think knowing that I am not the only one who hasn’t felt that big emotional reaction, makes me feel more confident in my decision.

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Thank you Megan! I am glad to hear that I am not alone in not having a reaction. For a moment I thought I might be “broken” in some way lol! There is way too much pressure to have that moment. I too can’t stop looking at the picture and I do see myself in it on the day of, I just need to stop the second guessing and trust myself.

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Thanks Amelia! When I look at the picture I don’t see the model I do actually see myself in it! So I think getting back in will help remind me that it is the right one!

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Thank you Caitlyn! I was thinking of making an appointment to try it on again and perhaps pull some others just to compare. I think you are right that I am getting too invested in having that moment, that it is causing me to second guess myself!

It looks beautiful and as long as it fits - I would say try it on and see how you feel now knowing that that wedding day is actually coming now? Picture yourself walking down the aile and knowing that you will say "I do" in it and that might help with your feelings towards it. But like the others said, don't feel pressure to get that feeling - it doesn't happen for everybody and that's okay.

Have you considered booking an appointment and trying it on again?Maybe get your hair and makeup done for the day and see how you feel all done up?The dress is beautiful and it could help if you tried a veil or some kind of tiara/headpiece on to see if that gets the feelings going?

I agree with everyone below - the dress looks beautiful, I would not change it. The reaction thing creates so much pressure! I did end up crying at "the one" but it was after an emotional day of dress trying and prompting from my friend, who knew I wanted to "cry" for the one. So honestly, I don't even know if I was crying at that or just crying at the whole experience or just crying because I was tired. Either way, don't focus on that as much. I would say go back and try it on and see how you feel!

It's beautiful! I don't think you need to try anything else on.


And I don't think you need to hold out for the syttd feeling. My mom cried at the dress I didn't end up getting! If you'd asked me 8 years ago I would have thought mom crying was *the* sign, but like you I knew that my dress was more flattering and fit the image I had in my head.

I think your dress is gorgeous! I didn't react when I found mine. I took pictures of me in all the dresses I tried on, went home, thought about it, and picked the one I couldn't stop looking at... My thought process was similar to yours!

I'm not a super emotional person so I wasn't sure what kind of reaction I'd have to finding 'the dress'. I ended up actually having more of a reaction when I first saw the dress a week before my appointment (and before actually getting to try it on); I gasped and got butterflies. When I actually put it on, I was all confused after having tried on about 20+ dresses at 2 other stores so, beyond knowing that I loved it, I wasn't sold. So I went home for a couple days and couldn't stop thinking about it and that's how I knew it was the one.

TLDR; don't worry about how you think you were supposed to feel or react to your dress. I didn't have a big emotional reaction either. If you love it and can see yourself walking down the aisle in it, don't second-guess yourself (I know it's hard). If I were you, I'd get back in to the store to put it back on and re-affirm how much you love it.

The dress you chose is beautiful. You can look some more and try on other dresses if you like, but try not too get to invested into searching for the SYTTD "this is the one" crying moment. I am a very overly emotional person so I thought for sure I'd cry buckets when I found my dress, but I didn't. I love my dress and have no doubt that I chose the perfect dress for me though.