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Isabelle
Curious January 2019 Ontario

Dress code

Isabelle, on April 6, 2017 at 13:30 Posted in Wedding fashion 0 20
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I'm a very old fashioned gal when it comes to fashion, especially for weddings and I want to see what others have to say. If you have a different Opinion, I'd love to hear it and the reasoning behind it!!My usual rule is if you're uncomfortable to show your father what you are wearing (I mean doing a full on twirl in front of him), you shouldn't be wearing it (unless you're going to a club or something of the sort).I've been to many weddings where the pictures look off because the wedding party looks quite elegant while there are a few crop tops and mini skirts floating around. Although I've seen wedding invitations where a dress code is included.I would like to do a dress code, I'm just not sure how it would be received, what do you all think?

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Latest activity by Lyla, on January 18, 2018 at 21:27
  • Lyla
    Devoted July 2018 Alberta
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    This is what I put on my site.. most people know I’m humorous so for me it works, but either way I think it’s a nice joke to make it come across lightly Smiley smile

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  • Angela K.
    Curious June 2018 Ontario
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    Hi

    I did a dress code on my invitation. Its formal.

    I know some people wont like it and some people will show up with no formal dress but its a wedding and I am old fashioned so I put it up there: the dress code is formal.


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  • Zoë
    Master June 2020 Ontario
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    Hi Isabelle, yess from the movie the great gatsby!! Smiley love

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  • Shannon
    Devoted June 2020 British Columbia
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    I always wanted a very formal wedding but my FH thought that wouldn't go over well with his family and they would want to be fairly casual, so we compromised. On our extra info card with the invites, at the bottom it says semi-formal attire requested.
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  • Isabelle
    Curious January 2019 Ontario
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    Thanks!Gatsby? Planning is going well, just trying to make sure I don't go over my budget haha! Thanks for checking in Smiley smile
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  • Isabelle
    Curious January 2019 Ontario
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    That's a good way to do it!
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  • Katherine
    Super September 2017 New Brunswick
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    I wanted a dress code but my FH was against it... He doesn't give alot of input towards the wedding so I tend to listen to him when he does... My mom backed him up so no mention of dress code... I'm hoping that the formality of our invatations imply shorts are not appropriate.
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  • Chelsea
    Master August 2017 Ontario
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    My cousin and myself put on our wedding websites in the FAQ section: "Wondering what to wear?" and then wrote "formal attire" as it is a very formal event in my opinion!

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  • Zoë
    Master June 2020 Ontario
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    Hi Isabelle!

    Totally true. I think a dress code could be so cool! Gatsby would be also nice. Smiley sexy

    I really like your discussions! Smiley love A theme is really nice and special. You should really do it.

    How is planning going further? Smiley ring

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  • Isabelle
    Curious January 2019 Ontario
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    Very true, great points. Not all of our family has internet (as crazy as that sounds) so I may have to go with a blurb on the invitations or have my mother in law spread the word for me.
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  • Isabelle
    Curious January 2019 Ontario
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    Cocktail attire! That's my favorite! Sounds so James Bond! Haha thanks Lesley Smiley smile
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  • Lesley
    Super September 2017 Manitoba
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    I think dress codes are fine. I would put formal if you want everyone in long dresses and suits or cocktail attire if it can be slightly relaxed
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  • Melinda
    Devoted September 2017 Ontario
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    I know what you mean. I think it's actually pretty insulting when people show up dressed really casual for a wedding. I don't care what the venue is, a wedding is a formal event. Unless specifically stated by the bride and groom that they want it to be casual, I would definitely always wear something nice. In summer I'm not opposed to a man wearing shorts as long as they are dressy (ie. not swim shorts, ew) and are paired with a collared button down shirt. That being said, we're not specifically indicating a dress code on our invitations, but we're having a small wedding and I don't anticipate that any of our guests will show up dressed inappropriately.

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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    I'm glad I could help!
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  • Isabelle
    Curious January 2019 Ontario
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    I like both ideas combined. Such a smart way to do it!
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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    We're probably going to make it something a little funny....like a wedding infomercial lol! Something like "Hey everyone! You all know that the bride and groom will be looking their best and you might be wondering 'man! I want to look snappy like them. How can I manage that?!' Well, here are a few tips from the bride and groom on how to look YOUR best for their big day" (keep in mind I came up with this off the top of my head on my lunch at work just now lol).

    We might just do a general post about tips and tricks concerning attire for the wedding as I want to let all the women know that it might be wiser to wear wedges or flats and to bring a shawl or something for the evening. We also plan on telling some people when we see them and maybe they will spread it by word of mouth.

    I think you need to make it playful and/or funny to take away the potential sting people could feel from you "telling" them how to dress.

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  • Isabelle
    Curious January 2019 Ontario
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    That's so interesting! How are you going to word this post? That's pretty much where I am stuck.
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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    I don't think it is a problem to say that there will be a dress code in effect. We plan on putting up a post on our wedding website and sending out a reminder e-mail before the wedding. I feel like a lot of people assume that because we are having an outdoor wedding with barn reception that it will be very laid back and think it is ok to wear shorts (or something similar) and a t-shirt. We don't want black tie but would like everyone to at least wear nice pants and a polo shirt or button up shirt and/or a business casual type outfit.

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  • Isabelle
    Curious January 2019 Ontario
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    I agree completely and I like your idea of black tie but I don't want anyone thinking that they can't wear bright colours or patterns or anything like that :/ what you wear to a wedding with no dress code vs. one that said black tie?
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  • Denise
    Frequent user May 2018 Ontario
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    I think there's nothing wrong with stating a dress code is in effect. You could write something on the invitation like, "black tie".

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