Do's and Don't's of a Wedding?

DO's":

Make the wedding your way as you envision it.

First dance after entering to capture the moment (DJ made this mistake for us as he made it towards an hour before finishing).

Mother/Son and/or Father/daughter dances can be done as your parents are still alive and remember this moment and capture it for them to keep in their home framed. Optional choice.

Cake cutting is a nice way of getting photos taken if going this path. Other variety desserts can be done as your choice on the side or apart from the cake to cut. Optional choice.

Getting ready time with the family first and then the wedding party is a way of capturing photos beforehand than later as timing can be stretched for group pictures. Its also nice to have the moment of family to cry before the ceremony and toast drinks.

First looks are nice if you wish to surprise your SO by blindfolding them or back on walls if the room has no door connected. Optional choice.

Delegate vendors payments to a family member to give directly as needed.

Ensure your vendors show up on time and call if they run late to know they have not fulfilled their services as scheduled for time.

Don'ts:

Listen to others as they may know better of what may be good for you as you have much to worry about the day of the wedding.

Panic over little matters as they can be diffused easily unless its the wedding dress of course.

View quoted message That’s so lovely! I really love this!
Was trying to get my fiancé on board with dancing before the meal or at least between and it wasn’t up for it. So, it is what it is. Hahahaha

View quoted message Ahhhhhh, I totally agree with that point.
I do not like that at all. Especially having the groom to toss it to other men. Hahahaha! Like weird for me!

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Wow! I LOVE that idea of dancing then dinner So smart !

View quoted message Agreed! Absolutely hate those traditions. We did not do them. Didn't even discuss it. Our officiant didn't do that part 🤷🏻‍♀️. Traditionally in Jewish weddings, the bride and groom spend cocktail hour alone... (Where they're together for the first time 😉 ... Traditionally 😅). We took that time to really embrace what the day has been so far and what's to come. We obviously had food and drinks brought to us too haha. We loved having that. We also mixed up courses and dancing so that you're not just sitting for the first 3 hours of the reception. This was something we'd also seen a lot at Jewish weddings. Not sure why no one else does that.

View quoted message 100% with you on that ! Personally I wouldn't want my new husband under my dress infront of our entire family's. Further more why are you attending a wedding if you don't believe in it. ! Great points hanks! Thanks

I'm personally not a fan of the bouquet and garter toss but if you and your guests are into it, I can see the appeal.


I think officiants should no longer present the opportunity for objection to the marriage. Like if you actually object, who cares?