I'm not a super traditional bride, I just got engaged and upon talking to my fiance and he doesn't reallu care to a have a cake snd neither do I. I'm not big on sweets and neither is he, we were thinking of doing a sunday bar for our guest's for desert. Has anyone else done this? To us its an unnecessary expense..
Pretty much agree with everyone here. I have been to several weddings the past few years, including my own, and I don't think anyone had cake. Lots of alternatives like dessert bars or cupcakes. We did donuts and cookies. As a guest, I'd LOVE a sundae bar over cake 100%
We weren’t going to do a cake as our venue package included a dessert course + we did a candy bar. In the end we found a local company who made a small two tier cake for around $100 and she even matched our florals. It was nice to have the photo cutting the cake, but we didn’t serve it at the wedding. We served it the next day at a brunch my MIL was hosting for out of town guests. No one questioned why we didn’t serve it at the wedding or why an announcement wasn’t made about cutting it, so no one really cared if there was cake or not.
We're not having one either. With dessert after dinner and a sweet late night table, didnt make sense to have more dessert for the guests. However, since the cake is included in our venue package, I opted for some cupcakes, cause those I can take home Cupcake and Coffee the following morning sounds lovely
Cake isn't for everyone as you have said which is true. You can go with other options that do fill you both to your hearts. Not all couples will do cake unless they have it as the main top for cutting or their anniversary.
We did do cake though it was the top tier we saved for the 1st year anniversary and had assorted pastries served with plated dessert as each person got one piece apart from family who got cake. It was different yet good to have variety.
When my mom got married a second time, I made her brownies with the help of a friend, because we thought that would be more fun than cake. I've seen all sorts of things, and it all depends on what traditions you want to keep, like the feeding each other a bite of dessert, or cutting the cake together, and those could be adapted to other things if they're important to you.
Congratulations on your engagement Bethany! We are having a one tier cake for us to cut and cupcakes included in our sweet table for our guests. We wanted a plain white iced cake with a few flowers matching our decor but couldn't justify the $300+ price tag for such a small, simple cake
We're having macrons! I didn't want to spend money on a cake that no one is going to eat. Plus, our venue has dessert included with the meal so we figured people would pick at little macrons if they wanted anything extra.
We had dessert tarts! Fresh fruit tar, strawberry rhubarb, a chocolate option...I think there were 4 different kinds and it was a hit! I like you, did not want the traditional idea and look of a cake so we opted out of it. I do agree though, it is nice to offer your guests something sweet after dinner - I think its appreciated especially paired with coffee/tea!
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There’s so many options now a days, I’ve seen donut walls champagne walls cup cakes and muffins traditional desserts feom places the couple have travelled the option is totally up to you guys but typically a dessert of some kind is expected in most cases in my experience
More and more people are opting for a dessert table or sundae station rather than cake and I think that’s totally fine if you want to skip desert all together some people may be taken back, so I think a sundae bar would be a great compromise to cover all the basis