Do you buy the venue provided coordinator a gift?

I ended up giving one favour to the coordinator since i had extras sitting around. It wasn't my intention to do from the beginning.

I never even knew this was a thing what would someone even give

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I completely agree! My coordinator has been going ABOVE AND BEYOND her duties, she is so quick to text me back, and she has helped me so much and it is not even over. I 100% plan on buying her a gift or giving a gift card!

Agree with many of the others about it not being obligatory but instead reflected of whether they go above and beyond what they get paid to do anyway.

That being said, we may invite our venue coordinator to our Welcome Dinner/Kwe Kwe bc she’s one of the reasons we selected the venue.

And we’ll definitely send her a card with a gift card or something in it.

After the wedding we’ll think look back and think about the service levels of our vendors and who we’d like to thank more personally.

We’ll also may give shout outs to the vendors during our thank you speech but that’s too far ahead to think about now.

Good luck with your decision!

Has she done a good job, or a great job? Has she done exactly what she’s expected too, or above and beyond? My venue coordinator has gone abouve and beyond. She answers all my crazy questions, she has stayed patient with me though me changing my mind a million times. She is doing so much to keep us happy! Your venue coordinator doesn’t get a benefit for a good referral, the venue does. If it’s an independent coordinator, then a referral would be great. Often people tip vendors for doing a great job. Would I tip the venue coordinator with cash? No. But a gift card or gift? Absolutely yes! You usually tip with cash for DJ, photographer and also a small tip for drivers doing deliveries (floral, cake) etc. It doesn’t have to be extravagant, just a thank you to show you appreciate all they’ve done

My vote is in the no camp. You shouldn't feel you have to buy a gift for the vendor coordinator, but there are definitely other ways to show your appreciation if she was fabulous or went above and beyond!

Like Renee suggested and you mentioned, referrals would be a great way. Leaving good reviews on places like Yelp or Wedding sites like here on Wedding Wire or on the Knot would be another good avenue.

If you really want to more directly thank her (or your mother insists on something), you could write her a thank you note and/or write her supervisor on how great a job she did and why...some companies keep that feedback in personnel files for review for raises or promotions.

Uh no. No offense if course! But this is their job! When you do a good job at work, does your boss or client buy you a gift? Ok fine maybe sometimes lol but your right if you buy her then why not all vendors who are doing their job. 100% a referral is the kindest gift you could give