Disinterested bridesmaid

I would talk to her. Just let her know that she doesn't seem as excited as she did earlier and you wanted to make sure she is ok. She might be stressed, she might be having money issues, she might be jealous, she might be pregnant and doesn't know how to tell you!


As someone who wanted out of a wedding but didn't want to make a fuss, please give her the opportunity to get out without hurting too many feelings. My friends and I are in so many wedding photos of someone who no longer speaks to most of us and I can only imagine how the bride feels looking back on those memories.

Are there certain events coming up for wedding? Maybe ask her if she is coming to a few of them. Do you have a wedding show in the area? Maybe see if she gets excited about different parts of the wedding. Maybe because it is far off she has sort of prioritized it as something that can wait a bit? Having concrete things to do for wedding may spark her interest in it again.

What is she doing? does she have something going on in her personal life she could be dealing with at the moment? you can totally offer her an out but i would speak with her first see whats up

Doesn't hurt to ask, and if you are close enough to ask her to be in the wedding party then I'm sure that just hanging out and mentioning it shouldn't be a big deal. Just need to explain to her all that comes with it and feel it out from there.

Hey Jenna! Congratulations on your engagement!

I'm sorry that your BM is not having the reaction you expected.

It's great that she was so excited when you asked her to be involved in your wedding and she so enthusiastically agreed.

It might be difficult to hear, but no one is going to be as excited about your wedding as you are. Since your wedding is still quite a while away, I'd imagine that your BM just has other things going on in her own life.

If you want to get excited about your wedding with your BMs, perhaps you could plan a fun brainstorming coffee date for some wedding chat.

I'm sure your co-worker BM will be much more involved closer to your wedding when there are things you need a little extra help with!

It could be that your wedding is still far away and she still has her own life so your wedding might not be on her radar. It definitely wouldn't hurt to talk about it and if she does want to be a part of it.

My MOH is going through a bit of a mental breakdown right now and I'm getting married this Saturday. People have their own stuff going on so don't be discouraged if she seems disinterested right now.

Your co worker may have lost interest in a way if she have a lot on their plate right now.

You should find out if she feels she wants to be included in your party still or out attending as a guest. Its always hard to see someone this way and worry so much of what's going on their end. Your concern is there when you know it effects your day.

Since, your wedding is still far away. You can talk with her. But when you would be one on one. At lunch time.

Just explaining, I asked you to be my bridesmaid, before asking if you could and would like to come to my wedding. Make it easy and comfortable. I want you to feel free, to do as it suits you. I just will need confirmation of it than and than.

Plus, are you buying a dress for your bridesmaids? If not, that could be a problem. That she will need to buy a dress, the style you will tell her for her own money. Usually, in my opinion. When I dont want to go to someones wedding, I have few reasons. That person does not mean a lot to me, or it is in another country and I will need to pay for my plain and hotel. Other then that I would not refuse the wedding. Plus...If she confirm, that she wish to be your bridesmaid, explain her how it will work, that you or her buys dress, what she will need to do during the wedding ceremony, if it is ok with her. Again, how close are you, to ask her to be part of your wedding.

There is nothing bad to talk about it, you have not done official invitation with cards.

I will not have any bridesmaids. I think it is a old tradition, and there is no need for that, for me.