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Joey
WeddingWire Admin May 2015 Maryland

Did you register for anything you don't really want?

Joey, on May 31, 2018 at 08:05 Posted in Before the wedding 0 19

Let's talk about registry pressure.

Were you encouraged to register for something you don't want? Maybe something your partner picked out that you don't like? Maybe something your parents told you you HAD to include on your registry, but you just don't picture ever using? How about something a registry consultant pushed you into including? What gifts did you add just to appease someone else?

Did you register for anything you don't actually want?

Did you register for anything you don't really want? 1


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Latest activity by Kaye, on June 7, 2018 at 17:22
  • Kaye
    Frequent user September 2018 Ontario
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    My fiance insisted on registering for an $80 seat cushion. Whatever lol
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  • B
    Devoted September 2019 Ontario
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    Haven’t started registering yet, but between the two of us, I don’t think we are going to need much, as far as regstaring goes
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  • Valérie
    VIP September 2019 Quebec
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    We aren't registered anywhere. We'll be asking for gifts of money, to put towards a down payment on a house.

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  • Courtney
    Super July 2018 Ontario
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    We didn't want a registry at first. I've been living on my own for 10 years, and living with my partner for 2. For birthdays and Christmas we always get stuff for the house from our parents so there wasn't much to ask for.

    My FH's family insisted we have a registry, so we created a small one and I made the mistake of letting my FH scan random things.. and of course, those are the things that got purchased for our engagement party haha (like a random beer tasting glass flight.. which is cool but really when are you going to sit at home and use that, or a skull shaped liquor jigger).

    After the engagement party I pulled down anything that we really didn't WANT or NEED and we updated it about a month ago which things we only really wanted or needed. It's a fairly small registry but there's literally nothing else we want and I HATE clutter or having things just for the sake of having them.

    We do get complaints about the registry being too small, or that specific items that his family wants to buy us aren't on there (like they want to buy is a knife set.. but I got a GORGEOUS knife set from my dad two years ago that I am not replacing). Oh well.

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  • Michelle
    Super September 2018 Alberta
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    Oh we were at bed, bath and beyond and they did give us a scanner. My FH went nuts I looked that the list and I took a couple things off as they were completely un-needed like a indoor bbq/grill. It was ridiculous. We are mainly doing a honey fund, however if there are those who don't like to give money is why we did a small registry.

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
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    We're debating making a registry for the guests who can't make it but want to send something. If we do go ahead with it, we will definitely only register for things we want! We live in a small condo so we don't have room for things we don't really want lol.

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  • Alexandra
    VIP November 2019 British Columbia
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    We’re doing a honeymoon registry. We’re taking a big trip to England to see the rest of my family. And we’ve lived together for over a year, it’ll be closer to three when we’re married, so I really really wanted to discourage people from giving gifts that we won’t need or use.
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  • Jen
    VIP June 2018 Ontario
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    We made a registry but had so many issues with items constantly being discontinued that we just deleted it. Thankfully nobody purchased anything from it. We also did a honeymoon registry and only 1 person used it lol.

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  • Marie-Claire
    Devoted August 2018 Quebec
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    We made a registry because we knew that my fiancé's family is very big on gifts and we didn't want them to buy us stuff that we don't need or even want.

    We tried to find things of all price ranges, especially since his brother and his wife (who have just gotten married) told us to put some of those fancy and expensive things that we wouldn't otherwise get, as their uncles are very generous.

    Well, one of them picked the second most expensive item, and still gave us a huge amount of money.

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  • Helen
    Frequent user September 2018 British Columbia
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    My logic is that people are spending a ton of money to attend the wedding, and it is their vacation too. If spending that extra $100 to get me a gift means they may not do an excursion to keep costs under control, then that totally sucks. Plus I want to do excursions too and it is way more fun to do wine tasting with a group than alone (aka Tuesday night) Smiley smile

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  • Clarissa
    Expert October 2018 Saskatchewan
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    I love that idea of guests “gifts” being spending time with you on excursions. I am also more inclined to time and memories over “stuff”.
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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
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    We registered for upgrades and wish items. We wanted everything we registered for but don’t actually need any of it.
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  • Jane
    Frequent user July 2018 British Columbia
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    We didn't want a registry, but it was the. First thing people would ask after we gave them their invite. Sonweadw a small one with the things we want to replace around the house. A family member was then saying that it's a little "limp" so we won't through again and added more things that we didn't need, but would be a good upgrade.

    Our original plan was a small registry for the mm ore traditional folks and asked for donations for a downpayment or the honeymoon. I guess we'll see what people prefer
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  • Helen
    Frequent user September 2018 British Columbia
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    We aren't doing one either . We've asked that instead of gifts they instead spend the money joining us on one of the activities we are having at destination, to build our memory bank instead. I would way rather have that than another gravy boat! I am sure people still will insist on gifts so we would honestly prefer cash for our honeymoon; we are mid-forties and just got rid of all of our duplicate dishes and stuff from moving in together recently. I guess there is still a chance that we will get a physical gift, but that is ok if it makes the gifter happy then it has served its purpose.

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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    We made a small registry and curated it ourselves and only put things on it that we wanted or needed. I personally don't see the point of putting things you don't want on your registry even if people pressure you because you may actually end up getting that item and then figure out how to get rid of it.

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  • Jocelyn
    Expert August 2018 Ontario
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    I personally created our registry, mainly asking for things from a specialty houseware/entertaining store (williams-sonoma).
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  • Clarissa
    Expert October 2018 Saskatchewan
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    We made a registry because family had been asking for ideas on both sides and our guests are coming from all across Canada so it’s not as easy as word of mouth. We only registered for stuff we need or wanted. I didn’t want to do one initially because for me I don’t agree with expecting gifts from your guests (especially if your also having showers, engagement parties, etc). But we did one so to try and direct our guests to things we will actually use. We also added some bigger priced pieces after I was informed that we can buy up what is left on the registry after the wedding (yes I would love to save 10-20% on that very expensive cook wear or rumba).
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  • Leah
    VIP April 2019 British Columbia
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    I’m with Tori - we don’t even want a registry.

    y mother believes the absence of a registry means we’re asking for money (which we don’t want to do) but tbh - while we’ll accept gifts/money graciously, we wouldn’t ever actually ask for or expect them. (It’s already a destination wedding and we don’t want to ask so much of our guests)

    So we’ll have to figure out a work around.
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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    Although I haven't made one - everyone on both his side and mine are wanting us to. I know it's not proper to ask for money, but by the time we have our wedding shower (if we have one at all); we will have been living together for at least a year in our house that we just bought! Chances are that we will have bought what we need and received what we wanted for our birthdays and Christmas by then. Definitely feel pressure to make a registry though... I'm hoping to have a Honey Moon Shower instead Smiley tongue

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