Did you invite guests you knew couldn’t come?

Absolutely did. We wanted to let them feel included despite the distance.

We have friends and family overseas and, for me, I see the invite as a nice symbolic gesture - I’ve said, “of course, we don’t expect you to make it, though, if you can, we would be thrilled but it would just feel wrong to not invite you since you mean so much to us.” I just want to make sure the people we love know we want them there, even if it’s not possible for them to actually make it.

I have this same issue but in Ecuador. I'm inviting them just because i want everyone to feel included and thought of. that way there's no surprises and well i know i live far away but a invite would have been nice.

The gesture of inviting the elderly though they won't be able to make is a nice thought to let them know your getting married. They may have some other family member to get a gift for them on your day on their behalf.

We did as we wanted to know that in normal circumstances we wanted them there and this way they knew about the virtual option too.

I would sent them out to them anyways. It's the thought that counts

I don't think its rude, it's a nice gesture saying, hey I care about you and sending you this invite incase you can make it.

Your wedding is a little over a year away, so if you want you can send the out of country invites early to see if people can make arrangements to come?

My wedding is out of country and requires a resort booking so I am sending invites out at the year mark.

I would send the invites to people who I know can not attend. If they are important to you and you want them to be there. If they are people you talk to often. I don't think it hurts to let them know you care and understand that they can't make it.