Dealing with work before/after wedding.

Honestly, I'd probably work it (I'm only planning to take the one day before off) but I'm a bit of a control freak at work and I totally get where you are coming from when you say you'd be thinking about it.

What would you be doing that day if you took it off? If it's things that can be done either on the weekend before, Wednesday night after work or on the Friday - I would say work it because if you take it off just to do a few piddly things, you'll definitely be thinking about work and wondering how it's going. I'm the same way. If you have a whole lot of things to do that can't be done in advance or in the one day before, take it off because you won't have time to worry about the office. Also, is there a way to work a half day and work with the morning meetings and leave the afternoon to someone else so you can escape?

Another idea is ask your wedding party - do they have anything planned for you the two days before? I would ask because if they do, then your answer is easy, take the day off to spend with them.

So I took a few days off before and after my wedding but that is because I needed to organize everything to travel to and from the wedding which was 3 hours from home.

I think you can work basically up until your wedding if you prepare ahead of time. At the most I think you could take a half day off but that is just me. If everything is in order you won't have much to do before the wedding.

You also will not be thinking about work at all during your wedding.

I'm a bit on the other side on this one.

I'm only taking the day before my wedding off and working right up to it. My goal is to have everything organized a month out before the wedding so I have very minimal things to do right before the wedding. My week of list is: Pick up lemons, pick up lemonade, get my nails done, get my eyebrows done. All easy to do in one morning.

I'd probably work it to be honest.

I feel you, girl. I'm a nurse and work on a unit where I don't have the most reliable staff and it's really hard for me to be able to take days off and be at ease about it. You have to remember that you'll want that time to chill before the big day. I'm taking off nearly a week before our wedding to be able to hang out with family as they come in and relax.

If you’re really concerned, you could let your clients know that you wish you could be there but you have arranged everything and will entrust it to your coworker and catch them at the next meeting.