Coworkers and plus one etiquette

AMAZING!!! I'm really glad that worked out well for you.

I agree that as long as I had a group of ladies to dance and party with I would enjoy the night away! But some people get so darn offened- I'm glad your group isn't like that

Thanks for updating us- I like hearing issues get resolved

Great news! So glad it worked out for you

Awesome! Glad it worked out!

I get a headache thinking about spending so much too- we want ta great party, BUT we also agree that starting our life together without painful debt is best!

We have just scaled back on a lot of things, and picked the parts that mattered most to us to focus on!

I couldn't justify the loans that would have been required for that sort of shindig- but I was SHOCKED when I mentioned to someone our guest list is about 85 and they said "oh wow! Such a small wedding" I know it isn't HUGE, but 85 people doesn't seem so small to me!

Sounds like a great solution!

Sounds like it might be the best call for you- and keeps from accidently hurting feelings! And i think in the long run you are riht, the larger family group are the ones who love you most!

PS- how crazy is it that 75 people is small? LOL!

Hi Lindsey, welcome to WW Canada Community ! We are very happy to help you with your wedding planning. Narrowing down your wedding guest list of family and friends can be overwhelming and sometimes, seemingly impossible, and when co workers are throw it could be confusing.

There are diferent ways to asume this situation:

- To dedice about your co workers, ask your self: Are they my real friends? Do you spend time together out of the office? and on weekends? Do you thik you will be still in contact in 10 years from now? If you have to make some cuts, asking yourself these questions may help you decide how to proceed.

- About the plus one's, consider still sending a few "and guest" invitations and prioritizing who gets to bring someone else along.

Start with your immediate family and your wedding party — these people are your wedding-day VIPs, so they should be the first to get the plus one. In their case, it doesn't matter whether they're seeing someone new, in a long-term relationship, or just want to bring a friend along — they should have first dibs on extra seats at the table. For the rest of your guests, it all depends to the budget. If you can't afford to invite an extra 20 or 30 people, begin by narrowing it down to just guests who are in serious relationship

If you need help with your guest list:

7 Things to Consider When Making Your Wedding Guest List

Wedding Guest List Etiquette

Let us know what you decide!

Melissa nailed it. Everytime I think about not wanting to invite a SO I haven't met, I remember how when FH and I had been dating only a few months and his cousins wedding invites went out and I wasn't invited because "we hadn't been dating a year". I think how upset FH was and how by the time the wedding came around we were already living together (we moved in together after 4 months, but he was practically living at my house already after 2 months!). I mean I of course understood why I didn't get invited and don't hold it against her, but now planning myself I see that judging a relationship by an arbitrary duration (ie dating 1 year) is ridiculous. My new rule is if you're dating enough to be facebook official then they can come LOL

I think Samtam might have a good idea- to ask the ladies (I believe 9 total if I count correctly) if they would mind a ladies night, and invite only your coworkers, no husbands or SOs....or I think in this case you would need to invite all of the partners too. It just might generate some unwanted discomfort to come right out and ask the question- will depend on how friendly your relationships are!

I totally understand not wanting your guest list taken up by people you don't know, but we as hosts can't really judge how serious a relationship is...dating or married. I don't love inviting partners I have never met....but I am, because they are a couple, and I love one of them enough to want them at my wedding!

How big is your guestlist? Are you going big, or fairly intimate? That might help with makign the call too.

The ones with a significant other I would offer a plus 1. The ones that are single, I would not put a plus 1.

Yeah I agree with Melissa. It's easier to have an overall rule when it comes to all guests so then you're not singling out certain people and not giving them dates. I would think that you would probably need to invite husbands since they're married. (though maybe talk to them and see if they'd be willing to go by themselves? Like "I so want you to be there but unfortunately we don't have enough space for extra guests. Would you mind making it a girls night?") Generally for significant others, you can get away with not inviting them if they're not engaged. I had one of my mom's friends who was really pushing to bring her son's gf and we said no and he still came and seemed to have a great time at the wedding.

If you do decide not to give them a plus one, just make sure that it's clear because not everyone knows wedding etiquette and might still RSVP for a plus one even if you didn't give one to them! We had that happen with a couple friends where they RSVP'd for the bfs who weren't listed on the invitation but luckily we ended up with enough space so we didn't end up having to say anything about it.

Hi Lindsey! Nice to meet you

This one is tricky!

I would also be perfectly happy to attend a wedding with coworkers and just have a fun night out without my other half.

I think in this case if you invite the husbands of the ladies in your department, it would be unfair not to invite the other 3 husbands.. Just seems unbalanced (even if you don't know them, fair treatment and all)

Do the single ladies have serious significant others? Because I totally wouldn't want to invite their random tinder dates....but if they are in relationships it would be kind to invite them as well. They will know people at the wedding, so I don't think it is crazy to not extend a plus one to these guests.

In regards to my "solution" to the plus one conundrum I am trying to set a "hard and fast" rule, and not inviting plus ones to anyone single who knows people at the wedding. (which would be the case of your single friends!)

I hope this very long answer makes sense!