Covid wedding burnout

Look, I'm not trying to argue with you. I think you read way too much into my response. If you read my first response again I think you'll see that I suggested you speak with your venue about your options because you said you don't know what you're going to do about the dinner.

I also suggested you might want to consider postponing if you aren't happy with everyone eating in their rooms - because you said in your original post that you were worried this would happen and to me, this did not sound like something you were happy with or wanted to do. Obviously you don't want to postpone and that's totally fine.

Also, you didn't make it clear that your weenie roast was the same as what you suggested your outdoor dinner was. I thought these were two totally separate ideas you were floating around. Obviously you know all of this, but I hope you can see how people that don't know you and are trying to respond based totally off of what you write here aren't going to get the entire picture.

I actually did state it in the original post "good chance everyone will just have to eat alone in there rooms, which makes me feel like I am wasting my families time and money."

You are right that I did say I was hoping that we might be able to do some of the dinner outside, which is tied to the fact that "no receptions" since the rule has no explanation of what that actually means. If its fine for us to host a weenie roast on a different day than the fact we got married that day should not change that.

I get your just trying to be helpful, but at this point I am 5 days out from a wedding and nervous that the bear minimum I have planned could have to be cancelled due to restrictions. I was asking for help on how to deal with these feelings, not for someone try and make me feel worse. I doubt I am the only one you are talking to with this tone, and I would suggest you think about your approach because this is supposed to be a helpful community.

I understand that this is stressful and I'm sorry you're having to deal with the circumstances. I got married during the peak of the second wave and had to make multiple drastic changes to my wedding in the weeks leading up to it - trust me, I understand.

You did not say those things in your original post which was why I wanted to make sure you were aware of the restrictions and that your venue was communicating with you. I also noticed you replied to another comment saying you were hopeful you could do dinner outside. From an outsider's perspective it did not appear that you were aware of the restrictions and unfortunately people trying to get around the rules has been a fairly common theme during the pandemic.

I'm glad you're doing what you can to keep your friends/family safe and I do wish you the best for your wedding.

We are getting married May 21, 2021. This is our second date as we postponed from July 2020. As of right now we are only allowed a 10 person ceremony and that is what we are prepared for as we don't see anything changing in the next month. I am not handling the unknown well at all however we have made some big decisions in the past week that have gotten me a bit more excited for this date to come. We will zoom the ceremony for all guests that are not able to come due to restrictions and we will be planning a "sequel" wedding ceremony and reception next year to celebrate with everyone we wanted to share our day with.