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Covid Postponing Exhaustion

Kelsey, on July 28, 2021 at 23:50 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 7
Hey friends. Original 2020 bride here, then 2021, and now (🤞🏻) 2022. People keep telling me to "be optimistic" and don't get why I'm not excited about it anymore. Anyone else in the same boat? Has the uncertainty taken the joy out of it for you? I had everything planned except the cake so there really isn't even much to do until 6 months >. I'm tempted to elope just so I don't get excited and disappointed again. Just to clarify still excited to marry my fiance, he's been my rock through the whole thing. Anybody in the same boat? Any advice is helpful. ❤


Latest activity by Vinod, on July 29, 2021 at 12:27
  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    Wedding postponement isn't the easiest to change every year as it makes it feel longer and the joy taken out of the excitement. Be patient and one day at a time to just know you will get to your day and feel the excitement again. A private to small wedding isn't a bad idea too to get married and have the reception with the full guest list next year. Don't feel down with everything happening as it has taken a lot of many couples including yourselves to push the date for later.
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    100% the uncertainty took out the joy for us, especially after having to postpone only 10 days out. However, all of it, seriously ALL of it, was 10000% worth it in the end. We had the absolute best day(s), restrictions and all. Yes, it feels amazing for it to be over, but I would still do it all over again just to have that "big" day again.
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  • Stacey Tc
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    I'm kinda of in the same boat for a different reason.

    I've been engaged since April 2015. We didn't start planning immediately because I was in the process of buying a condo. The morning of June 19th, I signed the papers, the afternoon of the 19th I got rear-ended, then June 30th on the way to my first physio appointment I got rear-ended again and got sent to go through a rehab program.

    Feb 2016, the week I was starting my return to work I got rear-ended again a had to start rehab all over again! After over a year of rehab I had no job (because they'd only "hold it" for a year).

    Had a run of unemployement/under-employment working the odd minimum wage job and in Feb 2019 got t-boned Smiley atonished Luckily very minor injuries as the driver hit my wheel well.

    Feb 2020, we decided that we were going to start planning our wedding (finally) as I just got hired for a full-time position to start in March! I gave my 3 jobs my notice and I started work March 12, 2020 & got laid off March 17.

    My job was really up in the air, the only other full-time staff member still wasn't sure when he could return to work so I started looking for a new job. Got my current job July 2020, and Feb 2021 was decided to start wedding planning (again!)...

    Between my health and and some financial stuff, I've been in the start and stop of talking about wedding planning for almost 6 years and don't have the same excitement I "should" have.

    I'm looking forward to the wedding, and still having fun planning but after everything I've been through I want to just elope. My SO really wants a formal wedding though and because of the stress he went through with my problems, I'm planning it mostly for him.

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  • Darlene
    Curious September 2021 Ontario
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    I’m a 2020 bride and moved to this September. We weren’t willing to postpone again and are just going with whatever the guidelines are. I’m no longer excited about it at all. I have been with my fiancé for 20 years and engaged for 12. I have been waiting for this day for so long.
    So much has changed. We went from having a venue to them cancelling on us and we have had to move it to our backyard. My guest list went from 100 to 30. I think there are a lot of us that are feeling the same way and it’s really disappointing. Just remember in the end your marrying your best friend.
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  • Samantha
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    This was us too! We were supposed to be married in 2020, then we postponed to 2021 and when that looked like things still wouldn't be back to "normal" we considered postponing again. But at that point we were both mentally exhausted about the whole thing and just didn't feel the same excitement any more and the thought of postponing another year made it even worse. I think we had gone through about 5 changes just to keep in line with the ever changing guidelines and it took it's toll on us. When it came time to make a final decision about to postpone a second time, we agreed that we didn't want another year of that, so we decided to go with whatever the guidelines allowed at the time and stuck to that plan.
    In the end, it was a perfect day and the end result was that we were married which was the main thing. So try to keep that thought front and center in your mind no matter what choices or changes you feel you have to make and it'll all be worth it no matter what happens.
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  • Tunisha
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    Hello Kelsey!
    I haven’t been in your situation to postpone weddings twice. I’m sorry that you’re going through that. But I totally understand that the excitement/joy is sucked out of you, since you’ve been planning it all and waiting for that special day for something out of our control to come and put you on pause.

    I am a person that gets excited at least two days before any events. I got excited for somethings like getting my dress and working on decorations. However, this probably kept my energy. That being said, my fiancé and I are planning to still go through with our wedding should anything come up in September for our October day.
    I am wishing you strength and happiness. Just think you’ll be married to you SO on your day since all is planned. Time will come pretty soon.
    Sending positive vibes! 🙏🏾😀🥂
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  • Patricia
    Frequent user July 2021 Ontario
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    I felt the exact same way! And it never really changed. I was just tired and didn’t want to get my hopes up to be let down again.
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