Couples paying for their own wedding! All of it, even the Rehearsal

Having all the money for the big ticket wedding items was the hardest. Things like the venue cost a lot and we just had to ensure that that money was set aside for it. Otherwise, it was pretty simple paying for our wedding ourselves lol. We had a wedding that we knew we could afford.

We are!! i dont want anyone telling me dont do this or invite these people when i dont know them!! i dont want to rely on our parents who are older to be paying for this stuff!

We are paying for everything ourselves which is why we've given ourselves extra time to pay everything down. We also opted to have a wedding out of season which helps on the wallet. I have kept my wedding party super small only one MOH and a BM so I have asked them not to do bridal shower/stag and doe since it's too much work for 2 people. It also saves on the rehearsal since only 5 or 6 of us need to know what's going on lol.

We paid for everything ourselves as well, including rehearsal. Of course, budget was a struggle but we had a pretty simple wedding so we didn't go overboard. We knew what was important to us and what we didn't care too much about and at the end of it all we figured we are only doing this once and we will NEVER spend this much money again ever so it was all worth it.

Budgeting is the one thing that all couples face when it comes to planning. I faced a lot considering all the vendors were dealing woth me and the local bakery too for the cake and assorted pastries. Day of decor was done 1 day ahead to have everything in order. My parents helped pay for some things and my outfits. Rentals were booked as well so that nothing was kept at home after the event.

Online shopping for small things saved a lot of money and refunds were given if the product wasn't to satisfaction or not recieved.

Us here! We were adamant about paying for the wedding all ourselves. Future MIL really wants to cover the rehearsal dinner so we might accept that, but we want it to be really simple. Otherwise its just been us! We have had some offers but we are just directing them to turning that into a honeymoon contribution. Its great having all the say in our wedding and being able to say we paid for all of it. Good on you !

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Agreed! We are definitely enjoying all the control that we have especially me who is very picky with the decor that I want

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Very true! I have lots of family insisting that we get married in a church but we prefer a garden setting so we booked a garden! They can insist, but in the end the church is too expensive for our budget and since we are paying we got the final say

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Lol same! We hear them out, but in the end it's what we want that we follow, based on our own instincts

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So sorry to hear about your FMIL not wanting to get involved! My FMIL is a bit financially challenged that's why she did not offer any monetary help right from the start (and the tradition too). She is very supportive about other things though like giving her input about food in tastings and offered to help me find my dress.

My FH and I are paying for everything ourselves too. It is refreshing to see a lot of people doing that as well.

Budget is definitely our biggest challenge but we did decide to have a two year engagement so that is helping as well. We have been picking up decor stuff here and there as well to help eliminate costs as well.

Paying for it ourselves has allowed us to have what we wanted without the outside pressures of others. It’s nice to feel completely in control.

We are paying for the wedding, my parents are paying for the wedding shower, and his Mom is helping by making food for the rehearsal supper Only challenge thus far is the added amount we didn't anticipate spending for accommodations for his Mom + fam. but.... family is family

We’re paying for most of ours aside from a lump sum my parents are giving us, which we will use for our home.

challenge is obviously you’re the one paying for it, you need to have the money or at least money to pay off the credit cards. It’s definitely stressful but we have a while to plan our wedding so everything has been paid pretty spaced out.

the exception is my mom and my FHs parents are paying for the bridal shower (aside from venue which I paid for).

we really like paying for everything; no one can judge us for things we choose or be pissed off because of cost.

Challenges for sure budget!

Pro's- we have all the say and we have stuck to our decisions on it.

When peoples family's pay they feel like they can invite everyone they have met to your wedding and we didn't want that. We also did not want children which hurt some at our wedding.

We are also paying for everything ourselves, which is why we opted for a destination wedding. It's so much cheaper than doing something local! If we had help, we likely would have considered doing something in Canada.

I would have agree with the same challenges and perks mentioned. Getting to do what we want, but also having to pay for what we want 😂

Same! Paying for everything ourselves!!

It is hard on the wallet but we can do whatever we want. I still have my grooms family who sometimes says their opinion but we just ignore it. It’s our wedding, our money so it should be our choice!

My FH and I are playing for everything on our own (both Canadian). My mother was my only real family member and she passed on 12 years ago (we are getting married on her birthday in memory of her).

My FMIL is unfortunately the definition of Evil MIL and doesn't want anything to do with any part of our wedding, planning or otherwise. We are inviting everyone, including his parents to be guests at the wedding, but we are paying for and planning everything on our own!

Our challenges and perks are the very same! Although I wish my FMIL had different feelings - without my Mom around, I would have hoped for her to be a part of something. But I am marrying my best friend and that is all that really matters!