Cohabitation or not?

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Bethany, this time around I'm also waiting until we get married to move in. I have been able to find out his issues and vice versa while still maintaining my independence. There were other practical reasons for me staying in my house. My last child will be 24 and has just got a job that pays enough so he can soon live on his own.

I have been living with my fiancee for 3 years I think you should live with someone before marrying them. That way dont have to worry about stress of being newlyweds and learning abour each others habit. My fiancee and I fought over little things for first 3 months before we got used to a routine.

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Yes, Erin. I guess that's why the majority of couples move in together. The only drawback (and I've seen this before) is that often the woman wants to get married after a period of cohabitation, but the man thinks everything is fine the way it is. So the woman is left disappointed and discouraged.

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Yes, we all have annoying habits. Sometimes people move in together for practical reasons too, such as to save money, or the other person lives closer to work.

I get that it's good to live together before hand and work out living habits.. however, I wanted to get married before we moved in together. That's actually the reason we are getting married. I want to be motivated to work out all these quarks that are inevitably going to arise. Not that I wouldn't be before, but I know he's a good guy, I know I want him, I don't want it to be easy to just call it quits. I want this marriage.

I think it is a good idea to cohabitate before the wedding. Living with someone is a big adjustment that would be compounded even more by being newlyweds. It'll give you both time to figure out your living flow if that makes sense.

We live together very well... I'm fimilar with his annoying habits and he is familiar with mine... I'm very happy knowing that going into our married life.