Choosing Maid of Honour

View quoted message That makes a lot of sense, thank you for your help!!

This sounds to be harder than you imagined and making the wrong choice to regret after the chosen fact. The suggested solution of no MOH seems fair since you have no one close and one is planning her wedding too. Witnesses and bridesmaid is enough to ask the girls to be at your wedding and taking less tension on yourself. No wedding party is okay if you choose that its not working in your favour to ask any of the girls you don't seem fit.

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For sure. It alleviates you from having to single someone out from your group to make them seem "elevated" while your dad gets an extra moment with the ceremony besides walking you down the aisle (if you're doing that). And if your FH's parents are still alive and attending, one of them could be the other witness if he's in the same boat as you in terms of having a hard time finding a Best Man. Symbolically it also makes it feel much more like a joining of families.

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I never really thought about the witnesses, but I love the idea of having my Dad be a witness! that seems like a nice way to include him in a little bit more of the ceremony!

Totally agree with everyone else saying you don't need a MOH but here's as an alternative idea, in case this jives: how about a Man of Honour if you happen to have a close male friend?

Have you thought about what you're doing for witnesses in signing the marriage certificate? Presumably you would want one representing "your side" and a lot of times this role is filled by the MOH. In your case, will you choose one of your bridesmaids or will you pick someone outside the group, like a family member (perhaps your father?)

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Ooooh yes, thank you!! I was considering this too, I just wasn't sure how that might go over with all the girls as every wedding I've been to has always had a MOH. I do think that all the girls would be more than willing to help out though! Maybe that will work even better since everyone can pick and choose what they want to help with.

You don't have to have a maid of honor. I only had bridesmaids!


If you're worried about who will organize things like a shower or bachelorette, you can ask specific people who are good at planning or even let the girls decide and plan amongst themselves.

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Its a lovely suggestion, no need to feel sorry. I was thinking maybe just not having an MOH as well and giving everyone the opportunity to help out in whatever way they can/would want to.

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Oh I am so sorry! I do LOVE that idea though
Hmmm... Maybe don't have a MOH... Just have Bridesmaids? This way everyone can equally step up and help you.

View quoted message That is such a sweet idea! I would love to do that but sadly, my mom passed away a couple years ago. I will be tying a cremation necklace to my bouquet so I can have her with me up there though ❤️

How about your Mom? I know it sounds odd, but my Mom is my Bestfriend and I would have her stand beside me any day of the week. If my parents were still together, My Mom would have been beside me on my wedding day.