Chinese Tea Ceremony and Vow Renewal

Not weird at all. Whenever I talk about the wedding planning to family and friends they just say to elope and have a party later (not happening because I want an actual wedding). But for a period of time we were seriously considering just getting married at city hall and then doing something next year instead. It's your day, your budget and your vision. You guys do whatever makes you happy and the family can deal with it

Thank Hank!

Based on my experience, Chinese families could care less about the westernized aspects of modern weddings. If you're having a tea ceremony and Chinese banquet in exchange for the red pocket, I think you'll be fine. They probably won't even care if you only wear the red qipao or kwa instead of a white wedding dress. So this way, you can knock off pleasing the family and your fiance's desire to get married ASAP while reserving the experiential ceremony and celebration overseas with friends.