Changing your name - yes or no?

No way. The thought of changing my name that I’ve used for 30+ years seems insane to me. I don’t even particularly like my last name - although I also don’t dislike it - but it’s my name haha!

I'll be taking my fiance's last name for sure!

I love my last name, so I’ll be keeping it

I will be assuming his last name for sure!!

I told him that I don't want to give up my literal identity for anyone, but he really liked the idea of having the same last name especially when we start having kids. So I'm hyphenating so we can both get what we want. I'll probably still go by my maiden name, but legally I'll have both.

Hell's to the yes changing my last name.

I will be taking his last name- at his request. I wanted to keep my current last name as it is what I identify with personally and professionally- but I was married when I was young, and I kept my previous husbands last name..... FH was not too keen on me keeping it, and I do understand where he’s coming from.... so I’ll be changing it!

Yes, I will be taking his last name

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Yaaaas! I know a married couple, the woman hated her last name and was desperate to get rid of it, but didn't want to take her husband's name "because she's a feminist"?? I'm like, don't take his name because he's a man, take it because it's your choice and that's what you want! It seemed so silly to me to be obligated to do something you don't want to do in order to make a statement.

I too am a feminist, and I didn't take my DH's last name, but it wasn't to make a feminist statement, but rather because I like my last name more than his and I didn't want to change it! Mine is unique and my family is small so I really wanted to keep my name going, whereas his name is super common. No regrets at all about keeping my last name.

I will not be changing my name, I am quite attached to my last name so I have opted to keep it.

Yep!! I've taken his last name.

I'm in mid-transition of taking his name now... Married a whopping 16 days... I ordered new business cards, office plaque, and edited my voicemail/email signature before I left. My driver's license expires this month so I'll renew with my married name, as well as go through all the CRA, SIN, banking, bills, etc, name changes the next few weeks. My "D'OH!" moment was getting a 10 year passport 2 years ago, when we'd already been together over 4 years... so now we're married and I'll be getting a new passport again... oh well!

My next step is learning/practicing a new signature....

View quoted message Hahaha, gotta love those weirdos though! Keeps life entertaining lol

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Hers wasn't even bad! She's a funny person lol.

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What a pain in the BUTT is right!

View quoted message Mine is Irish, and it’s inbetween letters so no one ever knows what to do with it

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I see Yeah I have a French last name and it has an apostrophe over the e but it doesn’t cause me any issues thankfully, we just replace it with a normal e and nothing changes.

View quoted message It has an apostrophe! So some systems can’t read it, some require you to input a zero in that space (like the online tests I had to take in high school), and I never know how my last name is actually entered into various systems. Does it have an apostrophe? Is it case sensitive? Did they use an O or an E?

Its just a pain pain in the butt and I’m tired of it 😂

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That’s a shame, I didn’t realize you weren’t allowed to change it!

View quoted message You have me curious what’s the pain in the butt about your maiden name?

I’ll definitely be taking his name, it’s just something I always thought I’d do because it’s the tradition of it. I love my maiden name so it’s tattooed on me with my family’s crest. So I always thought of the tattoo as the symbolic way of keeping it. But change is good too and I love traditions and my FH and I want to carry his name

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I love ALL your reasons! I’m also a feminist taking on his name, because it’s always been what I wanted, not because I dislike my name, I just like traditions. Plain and implement lol

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LOL she really must’ve hated her maiden name!

I'm taking my fiance's last name because my maiden name is a pain in the butt!

I'll be taking FH's last name. It's not even something I ever considered not to do tbh.

Although my mother has started this new thing where she thinks I should keep my last name. Saying that it's so good and blah, blah, blah. Funny how she hated her maiden name and changed it ASAP (and she's been divorced for 11 years and still keeps my dads last name).

Definitely taking his name, and here are my reasons:

1. His parents are deceased, and he moved from the USA to Canada for this relationship.My family has embraced him, and he's definitely become "one of us", so I feel like a way for me to pay homage to his family (and parents who passed long before we started dating) is to take his name.

2. I love my last name (Burke), but am pushing for our first child's name to be "Burke" (I love it)

3. I majored in Women & Gender Studies and my family and friends assume I'll keep mine, or hyphenate it in as typical feminist way...but feminism is about choice, so I'm CHOOSING to take on his...and admittedly, I also like the shocked reactions.

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We will get married in Quebec and will be living there. So, I won't be able to legally change my name.

I will likely take my fiancé's last name at some point post-wedding!

Going to feel super weird but I will be taking my mans last name ❤️

I will be taking his last name. As much as I like my maiden name and it will feel weird to change it, I like the traditional way of taking my husband's name.. And his last name is good too.

View quoted message I totally get this. I took my husbands last name “Grotenhuis” when I was a “Pauls”. So much more of a mouthful and nobody can spell it. Add that to my first name that nobody can spell and it’s super fun.

And i has been working in my career for 3 full years at the time of our wedding and built a pretty good reputation for myself. Changing my name and starting to build up my good rep with clients under my new name will definitely take some time.

I definitely dont don’t regret changing my name, it puts a smile on my husbands face every time he now gets to call me a Grotenhuis, but it is definitely a pain in the butt!

I'm keeping my name for sure. My fiance is not so sure and may actually be taking my name!

I will be taking my partner's name... I'm old fashioned like that..